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#31 shelly1170

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Posted 21 July 2008 - 02:33 PM

Sorry, I don't have time to answer all but wanted to add my bit for #3

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you?

If you think you're having a difficult time adjusting to motherhood/parenthood, imagine what it must be like for the baby! EVERYTHING is new. They've never breathed, pooped, weed, fed... they've never experienced the air or clothing on their skin, never heard loud/sharp noises, never burped or farted, never had to close their eyes against bright lights and never had to learn how to go to sleep.

Luckily someone did tell me this shortly after Penny was born and it made me so much more patient and understanding.
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Posted 21 July 2008 - 08:47 PM


1. What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?
Do whatever it takes to stop the crying - if it means using a dummy or feeding to sleep or rocking, just do it - they are too little to be creating bad habits!

2. What was the least most useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?
Feed her every time she cries - The midwives kept pushing this on me in hospital and it was incredibley draining to BF Emily every time she cried - I nearly called it quits on the whole breastfeeding bizzo - then she got reflux and I had to stretch out her feeds to 4 hourly anyway!

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you?
I wish someone had told me that breastfeeding was HARD WORK... I went into it kind of naively thinking that it was natural and easy and if it didnt work well then there was always formula. It wasnt natural, it wasnt easy and there was no way that those midwives/ECHN's were going to let me use formula without a hell of a lot of guilt..... I assumed feeding would be easy, I wish somebody had said that it was difficult and it hurts a hell of a lot, but in the end its worth it!

4. What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?
My Mum let us stay with her for about 4 weeks wub.gif Our house was in the middle of renovations, we had no lounge room, only a bar fridge, no microwave so Mum invited us all to stay until the house was ready - and while we were there she helped me bath, care for, nurse Emily, she even held my hand during those early BF's that were painful. Couldnt have done it without her wub.gif

5. What was the least most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?
I cant really think of anything that somebody did that was unhelpful...... Nobody really annoyed me tongue.gif
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Posted 24 July 2008 - 03:17 PM

Excellent thread.... I reckon it should be pinned!
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Posted 21 August 2008 - 02:20 PM

Great thread, please keep them coming! biggrin.gif
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Posted 25 August 2008 - 07:58 PM

QUOTE(*~Nicki~* @ Jul 21 2008, 09:47 PM) View Post



3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you?
I wish someone had told me that breastfeeding was HARD WORK... I went into it kind of naively thinking that it was natural and easy and if it didnt work well then there was always formula. It wasnt natural, it wasnt easy and there was no way that those midwives/ECHN's were going to let me use formula without a hell of a lot of guilt..... I assumed feeding would be easy, I wish somebody had said that it was difficult and it hurts a hell of a lot, but in the end its worth it!


I'm too new at this parenting bizzo to comment much but I TOTALLY agree with this. I didin't realise that until my milk came in my baby would want to feed constantly and she would hardly get anything for her efforts. I ended up with really sore nipples and it took every ounce of stubborness on my part to keep going...so far!
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Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:24 PM

Awesome thread. Its so good being able to get into the nitty gritty of it all.


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Posted 03 September 2008 - 09:53 AM

QUOTE(chelley @ Jun 17 2008, 09:48 PM) View Post

MIL coming and staying in my house and REFUSING to leave, turning her back on me while holdin my baby and I was trying to take her back for a feed - generally making me feel like crap everytime I have to interact with her. mad.gif

OMG, I would be absolutley furious at her actions mad.gif What a rude insensitive cow...sorry but thats just wrong. She might be her grandchild but your her mother, grrrrrrrrrrrr mad.gif mad.gif


1. What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?
*To sleep when she does, and of course I should of but didn't and got to a point where I just burnt out, so then I started sleeping.
*Don't put pressure on yourself to 'know' what your baby wants.

2. What was the least most useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?
*Don't do this, don't do that, blah blah blah. I got so much that I just blanked it out and ignored them in the end.

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you?
*Your only human, if you try something and it doesn't work don't give up.

4. What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?
*A good friend of ours came over and cooked us a roast when our daughter was only a couple of weeks old. She's offered to do our shopping for us and just being there if and when I needed someone. Thanks Kristi if you read this biggrin.gif

5. What was the least most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?
*Just people EXPECTING to hold my daughter EVERYTIME they visited, this really p*sses me off especially when I want to get her into a routine and people crush it by when they do get a hold, holding her for over 2.5 hours and not giving her back when she is visibly upset and cannot be calmed by them. I believe if your offered a cuddle then that's fine but don't walk into my home and think that just because your family you have a right to pick her up or hovering over me until you get your way. mad.gif mad.gif mad.gif mad.gif mad.gif (small vent, sorry)



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Posted 14 February 2009 - 08:21 PM

1. What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?

You can't spoil a newborn with cuddles.

2. What was the least most useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?

Put a baby to bed awake. Six weeks on that still tortures me that I can't do that.

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you?

It is okay to use a dummy.

4. What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?

Mum came to visit and waited on us hand and foot. She cooked and froze meals, made me restaurant quality breakfast, lunch and dinners, held Amelie for a few hours in the morning so I could get some sleep and just provided support by being there.

5. What was the least most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?

Not naming any names but came over and plonked themselves on the couch and didn't offer to even make a cup of tea and proceeded to tell stories of all the things they did differently with their children.

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Posted 24 February 2009 - 12:57 PM

QUOTE(Renee` @ Jun 17 2008, 01:00 PM) View Post

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you?
That there was a thing called nipple shields that could of enabled me to feed.


I found out about these the day I was being discharged from hospital.
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Posted 21 July 2009 - 03:26 PM

1. What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?

Follow your instinct.
You barely put them down for the first 4 months.
That babies need you to help them feel comfortable in the world and trust is everything

2. What was the least useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?

I was making a 'rod for my back' picking her up when she cried and letting her sleep on my chest.

Put her in the car and she'll settle - Sophie howled blue murder every time.

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you?

Whatever you do is not set in stone. You can't always pre-empt issues. Phases come and go and are nothing to stress about. (i.e. fussy weeks and not settling).

4. What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?

The midwife took Sophie and told me to have a shower, made me breakfast and held Sophie while I ate it on the second day home (DH was at work for the first week and I have no family here).

Friends brought over a load of BBQ food and cooked it for us while I fed the baby one night.

5. What was the least most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?

The in-laws (who are absolutely fantastic now) came over and took up all of the couches so I had to sit on the floor the day after giving birth. They also still expected me to serve them as guests - make coffees, pour wine and provide food and clear up after them. They didn't hold the baby while I was doing this as, in MIL's opinion, she should be put in her bassinette notwithstanding that she's scream the house down.

To quote previous poster - Giving unsolicited advice [and barely veiled criticism] but zero practical help.


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Posted 21 July 2009 - 03:49 PM

1. What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?
Enjoy them while they are so little, they grow so so fast. If you want to just hold them, hold them.

2. What was the least most useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?
Creating a rod for my back by holding him all the time
Crying 'exercises' the lungs - by Karl's Aunty...hmmm great blink.gif

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you?
That feeling really anxious/not sleeping was a sign of PND.

4. What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?
My Mother in Law completely cleaned our house while I was in hospital and then prepared Xmas Lunch..we came home xmas eve wub.gif

5. What was the least most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?
I didn't really have any bad experiences

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Posted 09 August 2009 - 08:46 PM

this thread is awesome - does anyone else have any more to add to this?
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Posted 09 August 2009 - 08:58 PM

what a fantastic thread idea!

1. What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn? The most important thing to worry about is your baby, yourself and NOT the house

2. What was the least most useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn? That they need orange juice so they get their vitamin C blink.gif

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you? That the first 6 weeks are the hardest and the lack of sleep. I mean you know you aren't going to get much of it but FAR OUT you don't realise how little you do get, and still manage to function somehow.

4. What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital? Lots and LOTS of frozen dinners. Massive help. Didn't have to cook for a month.

5. What was the least most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital? Constantly ring or visit when you were trying to rest.

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Posted 10 August 2009 - 12:30 PM

What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?
To put them down to sleep still awake.


What was the least useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn
That breastfeeding will be easy within 2 weeks. I was broken hearted when after 2 weeks I was still having major issues. It can take much longer to get the hang of breastfeeding and for your nipples to heal.

What was the one thing you wish someone had told you?
To get a lactation consultant to see me in hospital as the midwives don't have time to teach you how to breastfeed properly.

What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?
Gave us meals to freeze. It was a Godsend!! Also doing some cleaning around the house.
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Posted 28 September 2009 - 07:31 PM

I can't believe I never came and filled this in! perhaps it got put in the too hard basket at the time wink.gif

Anyways my darling is just shy of one but I am going to try and reach back to the newborn days...

1. What was the best piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?

* Put her to sleep near a window during the day so she learrns night from day (Cate didn't sleep in a darkened room during the day until she was four months old). This worked well for us and Cate had night and day sorted quite quickly.

* Start the boob / bath / boob / bed routine (or bottle if you use a bottle) a.s.a.p. Again, Cate's sleep cues were in place very early on which worked well for us and meant we got to those lovely long stretches of sleep (6 plus hours) by six weeks. Didn't stay that way ( laugh.gif ) but we still have a very clear bed time routine to this day and it knocks her out for a good eight hours before we get a wake up.

* I was told that breastfeeding would be hard work and I'm glad I had the reality check!

2. What was the least useful piece of advice you received regarding looking after a newborn?

* To ignore her when she's crying as she's trying to manipulate me wacko.gif yeah right...a five day old can manipulate! An 11 month old - that's a different story tongue.gif But seriously - I went to my girl when she cried and she usually stopped soon after (except for her 'wind down' cry at bed time - but this was noticably different to her other cries pretty much from the end of week one).

3. What was the one thing you wish someone had told you?

* People told me this but I didn't believe them - it FLIES. Oh I wish I had have taken more VIDEO footage!!!!! A million photos and only a few precious minutes of video sad.gif

4. What was the most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?

* My sister had cleaned the house wub.gif All reminders of labouring at home had been washed and packed away. God love her.

* My good friend who is a lac consultant visited every second day for just 20 - 30 mins for the first two weeks to make sure I was okay. She offered advice and support but wasn't pushy.

* My hubby cooked me massive steaks with fresh vegies every night - I was starved and wolfed it down.

* My parents let me go to their place to 'hide' from visitors. Once there they would send me off to bed whilst they held Cate. As soon as she cried I would be gently woken and my babe would be placed in my arms for a feed. Oh, this was divine - I could sleep but I knew 100% she was safe and loved. if I had a bad day and was snappy DH would suggest a trip to my parents the next day laugh.gif

5. What was the least most helpful thing a friend/family member did for you when you got home from hospital?

I had tons of visitors for about three weeks after coming home and generally I loved this. Most visitors stayed for 30 mins - 1 hour tops and they looked after themselves.

HOWEVER

My MIL and SIL and two nieces visited on day six, stayed for over four hours and didn't leave even after I fell asleep at the kitchen table mad.gif ohmy.gif After they finally DID leave I was a sobbing mess who was in so much pain from my stitches, my DH nearly took me back to hossi. SO pi*sed off!

I also had a good family friend (she was 19 and a tad immature) pop in at 6pm about three nights in a row - witching hour. She was loud and wild and generlaly annoying...and she would crack it if Cate was sleeping and threaten to wake her mad.gif This behaviour stopped after I LOST IT on the third night - mummy lion definitely came out to play blush.gif

Sorry for rambling, but I loved answering these questions!




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