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#1 nikki78

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Posted 28 May 2008 - 11:15 AM

my future mother in law thinks or wants control we r doin our invites on her computer as she has own business and shes changed my wordin on wishin well invites. rsvp etc
Just about had enough i said to my fiance lets do them at home because its causin argument between us.
Last night she had the nerve to say after weddin r u goin to start goin to the gym to tone up u will have the money then as ur not payin for weddin..
She is really pressin buttons... When she want a say in everythin and there not contributin anythin to weddin my parents are
My partner says ignore her but crikey its annoyin and i hav a 9month old daughter and she always says r u don this wit her etc ... mind ur own business

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Posted 28 May 2008 - 08:50 PM

Yep, sadly lots of FMIL's are like this!

Id get FH to have a chat with her and let her know that you will be doing things your way so her opinions are not needed.

Good luck with it, as my FH says "weddings have a way of bringing the worst out in some people" wacko.gif

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Posted 28 May 2008 - 09:02 PM

QUOTE(*Lib* @ May 28 2008, 09:00 PM) View Post

Maybe its a good thing? blink.gif Your post is so very hard to read.

And that's something even you and I can agree on, Lib wink.gif

As for the original post - perhaps you and your fiancee need to discuss boundaries and together enforce these with his mother?

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Posted 29 May 2008 - 10:39 AM

QUOTE(*Lib* @ May 28 2008, 09:00 PM) View Post

Maybe its a good thing? blink.gif Your post is so very hard to read.


LOL -- ohhhhhh maybe she was really stressed when she wrote it

#5 MrsJo

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Posted 29 May 2008 - 07:56 PM

Wow, this is going to take more restraint than I have I think.

I think if this is your usual level of literacy (no judgment intended, it just seems like a fact at this point) then maybe you should accept any help offered with the wording of everything relating to your wedding. My guess is she is probably helping you in a genuine sense in that regard.

Aside from that, like in any marriage, it is up to the husband to sort out his mother, so set some boundaries with him regarding her, and make sure he talks to her about any of her behaviours that are stepping on your toes.

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Posted 29 May 2008 - 08:05 PM

i'm with the others, i think your mil was doing you a favour.

if you want genuine advice, in future write properly. SMS talk shits most members on this forum.


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Posted 02 June 2008 - 09:03 PM

Ditto to the above posts.

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Posted 02 June 2008 - 09:16 PM

QUOTE(*April* @ May 29 2008, 08:05 PM) View Post



if you want genuine advice, in future write properly. SMS talk shits most members on this forum.
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Maybe she has one of those cheap ass keyboards that dont have the letter G laugh.gif
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Posted 02 June 2008 - 10:22 PM

I think you ladies are being a little harsh.

Nikki has expressed her concern with the mother changing the wording, not the spelling.

And since when did we come down hard on those that may have problems with spelling / typing / etc?

Honestly. rolleyes.gif
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Posted 03 June 2008 - 06:33 AM

QUOTE(Emma Mint @ Jun 2 2008, 10:22 PM) View Post


And since when did we come down hard on those that may have problems with spelling / typing / etc?

Honestly. rolleyes.gif


Trust me I am the last to come down on someone for spelling.But i believe leaving a G out is more lazy than not knowing how to spell the word.

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Posted 03 June 2008 - 01:47 PM

Regardless of whether it is lazy, the poor girl obviously still has an issue she needs assistance with.

Some people are far too easily annoyed.

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Posted 03 June 2008 - 02:08 PM

Throw your MIL out a window!

- Sorry, just needed a little humor.

Just ask her nicely to back off. Or, alternatively just say yes to everything and then do what you want.

I'm over being nice to MIL's. They can all go jump!

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Posted 03 June 2008 - 08:23 PM

QUOTE(Emma Mint @ Jun 2 2008, 10:22 PM) View Post

I think you ladies are being a little harsh.

Nikki has expressed her concern with the mother changing the wording, not the spelling.

And since when did we come down hard on those that may have problems with spelling / typing / etc?

Honestly. rolleyes.gif



Maybe the OP's MIL just thought it sounded better grammatically/made more sense? Unfortunately some mums do go a bit overboard when trying to 'help'. For instance, I got a phonecall off mine today because my dad overheard a phonecall H2B took on Sunday about someone cancelling their accommodation and 'though H2B might have forgotten to tell me'. B was pretty insulted.

My mum did all the invites for us. I made up templates and she still made a few small changes. Attention to detail is not my (and perhaps the OP's) forte.

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Posted 03 June 2008 - 08:33 PM

mmm... it seems nikki has been scared away!

ph34r.gif It wasn't me!!!

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Posted 06 June 2008 - 05:25 PM

I am only new to I-do also but my understanding of the forum was for ladies of any age to contribute to this fantastic online community which is support and not judgemental. How you ladies responded to Niki's grammer is extremely rude. Didn't your mother's ever tell you if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all? I can't believe i seen that kind of attitude here at I-do i would be ashamed of myself!
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