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#1 Monica

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Posted 06 March 2008 - 07:09 PM

I only have one regret from my wedding and it is probably one of the biggest parts of it, the photography.

We decided to go with a family member (who is a professional photographer, albeit wildlife) to save a bit of cash. I went to chose the shots yesterday and bar about 15 that I love, the rest are pretty terrible, I am pretty upset about it and sad that even though there is an albums worth, the majority I don't even like.

The day is now over and cannot be recaptured, if I could have my time again, I would have hired a professional WEDDING photographer and paid for a better service.

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Posted 06 March 2008 - 07:41 PM

Could you do another shoot with a different photographer.. perhaps a Trash the Dress session for something totally different too... I'm sorry to hear you aren't happy with your pics.

Your advice is something I've been attempting to drill into my h2b and I'm really happy with our choice so far *fingers crossed* it turns out okay on the day.

You might find some of your guests captured some great shots that are better than the photographers - ask around!
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Posted 06 March 2008 - 08:15 PM

Sorry to hear that Monica, hope you get some good shots from your guests.

It's always heart breaking to read stories like yours, people who hire a friend with a 'good' camera or a landscape photographer etc only to be disappointed later.

Yet at the same time I bet the is a thread in some forum or another right now where everyone is encouraging the bride to go for the cheaper alternative.

The thing is when you get someone to photograph your wedding it's not just to capture a few petty pictures, but you are hiring someone to document an important historical family event. Don't you want your kids and grand kids one day to see how good you looked and how the day unfolded?

What do you say to your kids one day when they ask to see your wedding photos, 'Sorry I was to cheap to get a decent photographer so all I got are these blurry ones'

When you hire a pro wedding photographer you are also buying a piece of mind. The reassurance that they will get great photos no matter what. They won't miss crucial moments or people. If their camera breaks they will have a backup or two.

Of course that's a generalization, there are crappy wedding photographers out there and there are some very talented amateur out there too. But at least you can stack the odds in your favour by hiring a pro.

$3.5k to $6k should get you a decent photographer and a nice album nowadays.

And this is not directed at you Monica, I am just using this as an opportunity to make my point




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Posted 06 March 2008 - 10:21 PM

Monica, did you hire a videographer? Like you, our photographer wasn't the best, but I was able to get stills of the video to compensate.
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Posted 07 March 2008 - 07:42 AM

The pictures themselves are of a very high quality, I more don't like the shots he took.
He wasn't pushy enough in telling people where to stand and getting in front of all the other people photgraphing. In a lot of the shots, we (the subjects) are not even looking at the camera.

I just wish we had a professional that specialised in weddings, they know what they are doing, obviously.

I am thinking about doing trash the dress
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Posted 07 March 2008 - 07:55 AM

I'm so sorry to hear you arnt happy. When I first looked at my photos, of the 400 or so I probably only loved about 20 of them and I was a bit sad that we told the photographer to only really take candid shots because we didnt want to pose - this was our choice, he did a great job.

But when I looked at them for the second, third and fourth time I realized what we had was a really beautiful, and true record of our wedding days. Now I love them.

I am still disspointed with of how I look in the photos so I am having a TTD photo shoot next weekend.

This to me worked out perfectly, our wedding photos are an amazing and accurate record of our day, and we didnt waste the precious time of that one day having photos done, and the TTD will be our chance to pose and play and get more edgy type shots

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Posted 07 March 2008 - 08:15 AM

QUOTE(chrisby @ Mar 6 2008, 09:15 PM) View Post


$3.5k to $6k should get you a decent photographer and a nice album nowadays.

And this is not directed at you Monica, I am just using this as an opportunity to make my point


That's almost our entire budget for the *wedding*. I don't think it's fair or reasonable to suggest that the only way you're going to get fabulous photos is to spend a fortune on them. We're spending under $1K and we're very happy with our photographer. A couple of things are saving us money - he's only there for 1.5 hours (I really don't want the getting ready shots, or the 3 hour photo shoot), and we're not getting one of those fancy albums (just the prints and the negatives thankyou!).

It really is possible to "scrimp" on a photographer, but you don't need to compromise on the *quality* of the photographer to save some money.


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Posted 07 March 2008 - 08:18 AM

We got fantastic photos for under $1000 without an album. We could then choose how much we wanted to spend on the album once the wedding was over.

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Posted 07 March 2008 - 08:32 AM

Sorry to hear this sad.gif

We decided to save money and get a family friend to video the wedding. They had some problems getting the video onto a CD, so I offered to pay to get it done professionally, but they declined.

Our wedding video consists of about 3 minutes of footage sad.gif It shows me walking down the aisle and the first reading, and then there's nothing- no video of our vows, our first kiss, the waltz, the cake cutting.... wish we had've hired a professional.

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Posted 07 March 2008 - 09:27 AM

Had I done a little more research, I probably could have found something for around the $2k mark that we would have been prepared to pay. In all honesty though, the person we chose is an award winning photographer with the best of the best equipment so I assumed it would be ok. I guess I didn't consider the lack of expertise in the wedding photography area.

There is no way I could justify spending $6,000, our whole budget was $8,000
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Posted 07 March 2008 - 10:10 AM


I hear this sort of thing quite often and it does sadden me.

I think from the start my DH and I made the agreement not to use and family or friends as our vendors basically becuase it quite often can end in dissapointment and awkwardness if something goes wrong on the day or you are not happy with the final product.

I always beleive you pay for quality and as a result our photography and video was amazing, we were so pleased with the final product.

Maybe you could do a photo shoot for your 1st Anniversary or a Trash the Dress?
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#12 Monica

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Posted 07 March 2008 - 10:41 AM

I am starting to take this train of thought Lib. My Mum so wisely pointed out that it's not like you look at your album everyday so as long as you have a few good shots to have enlarged, the rest is pretty insignificant. Whilst I am still sad about it, I'll get over it
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Posted 07 March 2008 - 10:42 AM

Ohhhh Monica, so sorry to hear you are dissappointed. I wasn't totally happy with our photos either (and we paid a wedding pro to take them!) however I asked around the guests for copies of their photos and actually got some really good ones where I am looking at their camera instead of the pros.

QUOTE(*Lib* @ Mar 7 2008, 11:18 AM) View Post

I'd just like to make a point. We are coming up to our 5th Wedding anniversary and the other day I looked at my album for the 1st time since about 3 months after the wedding. You really only need 15 good shots, you can't display them all!


That is so true!!! I did up my own album and I think I have looked at it twice?? and certainly not for the last 2 years. We have two photos on display, one of us with our bridal party is on the wall. We don't have any photos of hubby and I on our own that we love, and hubby keeps talking about photoshopping out our bridal party from a shot, but I got married in Feb 2005 and I am still waiting rolleyes.gif Now I don't really mind, we have other photos we would rather put up, but then we aren't really photo people anyway...

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Posted 08 March 2008 - 10:38 PM

You don't need to hire a professional to do your wedding photography and video. What you DO need is someone who not only understands his equipment but also is a very friendly and outgoing personality. Someone who can chat easily and still be firm enough to give direction and not be afraid to boss people about. Family members and friends can do the job if they're like this.

Where people seem to fall down is that they never do a test-run well before. Have a dinner party for a birthday or some other important occasion (make something up) and get the person to photograph the event. See how they interact and handle the job and then think that you will have to lob the responsibility of an entire wedding on them.

I was a photographer myself but I worked mainly with animals and landscapes. I became a wreck during a wedding I did that I just gave up on the spot (I was invited as a guest but to take pictures as well). It was a baptism of fire and I failed miserably. Some people are born to do wedding stuff though.

So yeah, if you're asking someone you know, even a person who knows their stuff and professes to being a whiz with a camera, TEST THEM. They're not professionals so you need as much communication about what you want as possible and you need to know that they're up to it. They will understand that your wedding is an important event and you want to make sure everything's perfect. If they don't then they are NOT the right sort of person to be taking pictures at a wedding in the first place.

Don't leave it to blind faith because most of the time, unless you're lucky, you'll end up unhappy.

Monica, I hope you're feeling better about your pictures. 15 still makes a terrific wedding book though. Why don't you hire a photographer for a few hours and have a special shoot with your hubby just to bring back the good feelings from the day, perhaps on your anniversary or something? Revisit some spots that were special to you. You can add these to the wedding book to padd it out a bit. smile.gif

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Posted 09 March 2008 - 07:36 AM

THanks for the advice guys, really appreciated.
I am feeling a little better. I am going to discuss trash the dress with hubby for our anniversary or my birthday. I'm taking him to Tetsuya's for his so he owes me tongue.gif
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