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#16 Monica

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Posted 21 January 2008 - 12:10 PM

No way in hell my FMIL will be getting ready with us.
It will be my sister (MOH), my Mum and my cousin who is doing my make-up.
FMIL can help her son get ready in another hotel room (I will be in the bridal suite, H2B with my brother and his best man in my brother’s room)

FMIL and her husband generally come to Sydney to visit us every 8 weeks or so.
My future sister-in-law has actually offered to have her Mum and the husband stay with them when they come up for the wedding because she knows they stress me out.
They still thought it would be fine to stay with us and be there on our first night as a married couple at home - clueless

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Posted 21 January 2008 - 03:06 PM

what is it with MIL mine tried it as well

luckly logistically it was not going to work, hope it stays that way she would drive me mad
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Posted 21 January 2008 - 03:09 PM

QUOTE(Moe @ Jan 18 2008, 07:38 PM) View Post

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Same. Although I did write my MIL (and FIL) a letter that our wedding coordinator gave to them on the morning of the wedding saying how excited and proud I was to be marrying their son and to become a member of their family that day wub.gif


Thats so thoughtful!! I had no idea what my MIL was doing when I was getting ready!
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Posted 22 January 2008 - 09:40 AM

there's no way in hell my FMIL will be getting ready with me!

AND if she turned up, I'd get my mum (who WILL be with me) to NOT let her in!!

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Posted 24 January 2008 - 08:54 PM

It was never an issue with my MIL, and I'm sure if asked she would have insisted on wanting to get ready and help her son biggrin.gif

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Posted 25 January 2008 - 06:08 AM

My MIL2B will be going straight to the venue!

She is not even going to visit her son before the wedding!


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Posted 26 January 2008 - 05:13 AM

As much as I love my FMIL, I honestly think that it is a special time for the bride and her family.

Luckily, due to my boys culture, FMIL has to entertain guests at her house before they all come over to my parents, so there is no way she will have time to come over


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Posted 26 January 2008 - 06:33 AM

QUOTE(mrstobe @ Jan 18 2008, 10:28 PM) View Post
yeh thats how its is with her..she doesnt have any daughters so this is her only chance to be the mum at a wedding..

She still is a mum at a wedding, but her son is the groom and she should be with him. And you said your H2B has brothers, let her intrude on one of their fiance's wedding day tongue.gif

I got ready at my Mum's with my sisters and their kids and my Dad came afterwards for photos and champagne; and DH got ready at a hotel with his parents.

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Posted 28 January 2008 - 10:13 PM

My MIL only has sons as well, and the others are married and she was not involved in any of those weddings.
I love my MIL dearly so have asked her to join us, she declined saying "I dont want to get in the way, I'll come get my Hair done have a few drinks and take off" (God Bless her) and she wants to help her son get ready (he is the baby of the family).
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Posted 29 January 2008 - 01:20 AM

I can't beleive that she would not want to spend the day with her son. Maybe you could give her things to be responsible for on the day so she doesnt have time to bother you.

Its good that FH is understanding and going to help you out.


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Posted 29 January 2008 - 03:10 PM

My MIL is great, and I deliberately invited her to get ready with me, the BMs and my mum.

The way we worked it was that we all had champagne and snacks together, and then MIL was one of the first to get her hair and makeup done so that she could get dressed then catch a taxi back to where the boys were getting ready (5 minutes away) in time to help them and be in those getting ready photos/video.

Obviously if MIL was at all stressful or difficult, I wouldn't have done it this way...

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Posted 04 February 2008 - 10:21 AM

QUOTE(JC_1984 @ Jan 22 2008, 09:40 AM) View Post

there's no way in hell my FMIL will be getting ready with me!

AND if she turned up, I'd get my mum (who WILL be with me) to NOT let her in!!

i will be doing the same but it would more likely be my sister (bm) to kick her out lol smile.gif

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Posted 08 March 2008 - 10:36 AM

My FMIL is fine, however I have a bit of a problem. Me, my Mum, my four bridesmaids and my flowergirl will be getting our hair and make-up done on the morning of the wedding. One of my bridesmaids is my FSIL, so I think my FMIL wants to come to spend the morning with us, seeing as her daughter is a bridesmaid, and so she can be with the girls, as opposed to with my FH, who will be with his boys, and I don't know he really wants his Mum hanging around that morning!! With seven of us already needing hair and make-up on the morning, having one more person seems almost impossible logistically! I'm unsure what to do :\

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Posted 08 March 2008 - 11:01 AM

You have already answered it yourself; organisation of an extra person after SEVEN is a nightmare!!

She should be with her son on the morning of the wedding day. HTB may not want her there, but that doesn't mean she should become your problem to sort out

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Posted 27 March 2008 - 11:50 AM

Just tell her it's not tradition, she should stay with her son as she must support him on his wedding day and calm his nerves. And make him tell her he wants her there.




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