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how soon would you start dating again?

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#1 belooker

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Posted 07 September 2007 - 09:15 AM

hey girls. as most would prob know by know husband and I have been seperated for about 6 months now, but it has been over for us for about a year.

do you think it's too soon to start dating again?

#2 g0newiththewind

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Posted 07 September 2007 - 09:40 AM

I didn't vote because I think everyone is different. Some people need time on their own to heal and find themselves. Others have already done that if the relationship broke down over time.

Different circumstances, different time-frames.

Do what feels right for you.
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Posted 07 September 2007 - 09:41 AM

I think there is no time frame on it. If your heart feels right to start again, then why not? As long as you are comfortable with your decisions and think this will really add something to your life, then why not? who is anyone to say "oh no... you must stay single for 321 days and 6 hours because that is the done thing"


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Posted 07 September 2007 - 01:17 PM

as the others have said there is no right time, only you time. I have been seperated now for 14 months and have still not gone on one single date. I am happy with that, however I have a freind that started dating 3 months after she seperated from her partner. If you feel ready then go for it. If not then sit back and wait for it.

I hope that whatever the choice you make it for you not for the expectations of everyone else.
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Posted 08 September 2007 - 02:36 PM

QUOTE(Sambellina @ Sep 7 2007, 09:40 AM) View Post

Do what feels right for you.


^^^^^

Take time for you and start dating again when you feel that it's the right thing for you.


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Posted 08 September 2007 - 03:57 PM

QUOTE(Sambellina @ Sep 7 2007, 09:40 AM) View Post

I didn't vote because I think everyone is different. Some people need time on their own to heal and find themselves. Others have already done that if the relationship broke down over time.

Different circumstances, different time-frames.

Do what feels right for you.

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Posted 08 September 2007 - 04:38 PM

If you are ready now then the time is right. If not, then you should wait

I have been single for just over 6 months and am not sure if I am still completely ready. But my relationship ended suddenly, so my circumstances are different to yours.



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Posted 09 September 2007 - 11:26 AM

QUOTE(Sambellina @ Sep 7 2007, 09:40 AM) View Post

I didn't vote because I think everyone is different. Some people need time on their own to heal and find themselves. Others have already done that if the relationship broke down over time.

Different circumstances, different time-frames.

Do what feels right for you.

agree wholeheartedly
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Posted 06 October 2007 - 07:52 PM

I think there should be a little cooling off period because sometimes you don't know if you're in a rebound and that's not fair on the person you may be dating. If you've been with someone for years and you're dating within a month of the break-up, I think that's a bit fast but that's just my opinion.

Twice, I started a serious relationship seven months after the break-up of my two long-term relationships and that was plenty. I was messing around a bit between those times too wink.gif but I was certainly ready for a new relationship by that stage.

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Posted 07 October 2007 - 11:06 AM

QUOTE(nephthys @ Oct 6 2007, 07:52 PM) View Post

If you've been with someone for years and you're dating within a month of the break-up, I think that's a bit fast but that's just my opinion.



Just wanted to let you know that in my experience of this everything worked out great. My hubby was in a LONG term relathionship and broke it off with her a week before we got together. It was a tough first few months, not because he was getting over her, because she made it tough by doing unspeakable things.

Now after over 5 years we are married and couldnt be happier.

So, yes i agree it is fast, but it doesnt always end in disaster


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Posted 07 October 2007 - 11:12 AM

If you are happy to put yourself out there again, then go for it.

Only you can know what is right for you.

I can only assume that some people around you are giving you grief for thinking about getting out in the dating game again. Tell them to mind their own business.

You are a young, beautiful, vibrant woman. Why should you waste time sitting at home by yourself, when you could be enjoying yourself in the company of someone nice?
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Posted 07 October 2007 - 11:29 AM

I think if you're asking this question that you might feel ready to start dating.

As long as you are aware mentally that it might bring up feelings that you might have to deal with, as well as be a bit confronting. If you are prepared to deal with all that, then give it a go. smile.gif

My Mum and Dad have been apart for almost 5 years now. Dad has been in a serious relationship already for a year and a bit and has dated other women. Mum on the other hand has had one date in that time and felt awkward. Everyone is different.

Good luck. smile.gif


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