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#1 Loz15



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Posted 16 July 2007 - 01:36 PM

My FH's dad decided this week that he will not come to the wedding.

We live in SA but are getting married in Noosa in November this year. We have had a 16 month long engagement, which I feel is plenty of time to put away a couple of hundred dollars for an airfare. My parents also have a couple of holiday houses in Noosa in which I have said he can stay for free.
We then offered to pay for his airfare as well and then he has the nerve to turn around and say that he and Brenda (his partner, as parents were divorced 5 years ago) would come. Which means that we would pay for his airfare and then he magically could come up with the money to pay for hers!!
I mean why should I pay for him if he has enough money for the one airfare then he should just come up by himself.
It is just frustrating as the both of them bought new cars on finance last month - two cars for two people in which one doesn't even work! How can they set aside deposits for cars yet can't make the wedding a priority? I guess they just don't care.
I now have the drama of my invitations needing to be completely redone as FH doesn't want his dad's name on them anymore. They cost me $700 for 33 invitations and they now need to be redone!!!!!!

Sorry for the ramble.

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Posted 16 July 2007 - 02:04 PM

Oh wow, you poor thing!

And how childish is his father being? I am flabbergasted!

If it was me, I'd rescind the offer to pay for his airfare, and let them worry about it. They are both adults.
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Posted 24 July 2007 - 12:29 PM

Am I correct in assuming that you have not invited your FFIL's wife to the wedding?

I guess if this is the case I can see why he would be upset and making excuses about not coming. Perhaps he declined on principal because his wife was not invited.

Have you spoken to him at all about it? It sounds like a difficult situation to be in. I hope you can sort it all out.

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Posted 24 July 2007 - 03:09 PM

It is not his wife, but yes we invited the both of them.
God knows why he isn't coming but I guess it's a decision that he has made and we can't do anything to change it.
It's just upsetting that he doesn't feel the need to come I guess that's the most frustrating. I have trued everything to get him down with no luck and have now officially given up - It's his loss if he wants to miss the wedding.

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Posted 24 July 2007 - 04:46 PM

I can kind of understand that he doesn't want to attend the wedding without his partner. Perhaps he can't afford for both of them to attend so has decided to not attend, she might even be upset about it, might feel excluded etc so he's decided not to to attend. Personally I would offer to pay for both of them to attend just to have them there. You shouldn't have to but that's what I would do. It won't be much more than the $700 reprinting will cost?

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Posted 24 July 2007 - 04:48 PM

Wow... people are so selfish, aren't they?

If it makes you feel any better... I kinda wish my FFIL wasn't coming to our's... XP
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