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#1 familyof4


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Posted 06 July 2007 - 08:32 PM

SO ladies despite the hurdles of last weekend I can say that today I am at the one year mark and what a year it has been.

So many firsts for me some negative but mostly positives and I have to say that looking back now I am so pleased that I am where I am now and that I am not still in a negative relationship.

Some positives for me include;
*returning to study
*following my dreams
*swimming in the ocean (x-hubby hated the beach)
*going bush walking (see above comment tongue.gif )
*spending happy time with my kids
*not being scared or ashamed to have friends over
*getting some part time work without objection from the "a womans place is in the home" gallery

Some negatives
*Having my first Christmas, Easter, Birthday, New Years and kids Birthdays as a single woman
*being lonely on a Friday night and knowing you don;t want him back but sometimes wishing he was there
*Finding out he is expecting a baby and knowing that if things hadn't gone the way they did it would of been me that was pregnant

A negative that is a positive (if that makes any sense)

********Being a single adult for the first time ever in my life (ex and I started dating 2 months before my 18th Birthday)

I must admit though that in all of this I have found friends I never knew existed but I have also lost friends who just didn't know how to treat me in all this so they walked away cause it was easier. I have my L's and have bought a car and am well on my way to getting my P's (only 26 hrs to go !!!)

It seems that the old saying what doesn;t kill us makes us stronger. I am still here and stronger than ever, I was strong enough to walk away, strong enough to stand by that choice and strong enough to get on with life despite the hurt.
Yes there are still days where I sit down and cry because being a single mum is hard work. When life gets the better of you and you just want some one to share the load. But when I wake up in the morning to my beautiful kids saying I love you mum, it is so totally worth every bit of sadness. I know that by leaving him I am a better mum, I am more confident and happier and I am not sitting here afraid that he will come home in a bad mood. The kids are happier, loving more and fighting less.

I want to thank you girls so very much for all you have done for me, all the supportive comments and all the little messages that have helped me get past the last 12 months. Even girls who haven't replied have help cause there has been many a time I have looked at a sig and thought wow I really needed that message.

One girl who isn't on here much that I really need to thank is laura** because she was always on MSN when I needed her and she was only ever a phone call away, even of a night when I was lonely she would be there to make me feel like someone cared and it means so much that someone who has never met me in real life would take that time out for me.
Julz is the same, she is on MSN most days and always happy to send out a virtual hug to me. Also Julz is helping with my school work because she is allowing me to take some photos of her next month which is going to allow me to increase my portflio substantially smile.gif

Everyone else thanks again for everything, it gives me warm fuzzy's to know that a support network is so close despite our many cultural and locational differences smile.gif

I WUB wub.gif you all very much

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#2 Lisa84



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Posted 06 July 2007 - 08:39 PM

Alanna, what a beautiful post. I have been following your journey over the year and noticed that you have grown into a beautiful strong woman.

You truly are an inspiration by showing the courage to 'plough' on.

Take care,
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Posted 07 July 2007 - 11:42 AM

Hun, I'm so proud of you!!! I can't even imagine how hard it has all been for you. You've done so well. And you're right, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
You are such a gorgeous person and you deserve all the happiness in the world.

Well done on reaching one year! It only gets better from here.
Someday everything will all make perfect sense... So for now laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason...

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Posted 17 July 2007 - 11:12 AM

You are a strong woman. Its true that we dont realise what we can do on our own. Congrats on only 26 hours to go until you get your P's. I need to get my act together and get my licence.

Shay and i were on our own for the first 2 and a half years of her life and i slowly built up my confidence again.

If you ever need to chat im here.

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Posted 01 September 2007 - 02:59 PM

OMG! your is a truly inspriational story (even tho I dont know the full story, it still touches)

Good for you for picking up your life and moving on and becoming such a success!
I am so happy for that you have managed to find so many positives still in life and I hope they continue to come your way!
Congratulations and Good Luck!!!!

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