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#1 narzy


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Posted 22 June 2007 - 07:16 PM

Just to fill you in on the lead up-my mum and dad are divorced(im talking 15 yrs +), so my mum wanted to take her best friend as her "and friend" on the invite.my mum and her have been friends for years so i thought it was great that she brings her along. Mum has told her about it already.

Yesterday my mum told me she wants to invite another one of her friends. Our guest list is already over so i said we would have to see if we get any declines to the wedding before we can add her on.

Then she added that If she happens to meet someone (i.e. a male partner), between now and then(we have 11 weeks till the wedding) she would bring him along too!!!! What the!!!!!

Now she is angry at me because i said that she couldnt do that. For starters i dont want a complete stranger at my wedding, and she did this kinda thing at my cousins wedding.
She took this guy as her date and rambled on bout how great he was then on the night she ended up trying to visit everyone elses table because he was driving her nuts!
I just dont want that crap at our wedding.

At the end of the day- i think im upset and dont want this to happen as when she has a new partner-she doesnt act like herself,and more than anything i just want my mum to be my mum on the most important and special day of my life.....

Not trying to compete with my dad.

Sorry for the ramble-just need to see if im being unreasonable or just a b#%ch!

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Posted 22 June 2007 - 10:16 PM

Considering it's only 11 weeks away I think it's completely understandable you don't want to be adding more people to the guest list, especially strangers. You are being reasonable and letting her bring a friend as well as considering another so she can't expect any more at this late stage.

Hope it all works out and she gets over it before the big day smile.gif
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Posted 23 June 2007 - 10:30 AM

i totally agree.....its so understandable. she ahs one friend already there to make her more comfortable.

i am having the same thing but only its my sister who thinks that if she meets someone in the next 5 weeks til the wedding....then she can automatically bring them as she is BM blink.gif

my mum also wanted every single friend of hers to come along....which was a list of about 20. we allowed the few to come that we actually knew but that wasn't good enough for her.

in the end we politely told her that our list was full and they couldn't come. H2B said if we had more cancellations before final numbers were due, then she could invite them but to her cost as we dont know them from a bar of soap.
sure she cracked the sh*** for a while but then got over it.

stick to your guns...its your wedding after all and you want to be surrounded by the people you know and love smile.gif

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Posted 23 June 2007 - 11:45 AM

You're not being unreasonable at all. Stand by what you feel, it's your wedding day, be honest with her and explain that you want her full attention on the day and that it's important to you that she's not distracted. Oh, the joy of getting married and family dramas! My dad left our reception at 8pm because 'he felt uncomfortable' with my mum there (they're separated also), and because his girlfriend was jealous of mum. What part of 'your wedding day' don't family understand?! laugh.gif Good luck xxx
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Posted 24 June 2007 - 12:29 AM

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