Okay, this is gunna sound like I'm being petty anda whinger, and I acknowledge that - but I need to do it elsewhere because otherwise I'm just going to feed the sibling rivalry between H2B and his sister.

Bit of a long story - basically goes something like this:

- We got engaged just before chrissy 2005, and everyone was very happy for us, everyone talking about the wedding, dates were set, yadda, yadda, yadda. FSIL made some nasty comments about how she was sick of hearing about us getting married and us being financially better off then her (at that stage she was a single mum). As far as we all knew ther was no serious guy on the scene.

- At that stage we were thinking blue and gold for our wedding colours, I mentioned that and she said something like "If I was ever going to get married, that would hav ebeen my colours". I shrugged and found another colour scheme not wanting to put noses out.

- We went to away for 2 weeks, we came home she had some guy moving in with her and her child. Was a surprise to everyone, we shrugged and figured it was her life.

- Three months later her and said guy are also engaged (yay, no more nasty comments about us getting all the attention becaues we're gettnig married *eye roll*) - and here the sibling rival really started to kick in.

- They set there date for 3 months after ours, no skin off our noses - except we felt it was unfair for the elderly family from NZ who would now have to travel over twice in the one year.

- I had asked her mum to come to the bridal expo with me and my BMs since my mum couldn't (wouldn't - but that's another issue). FSIL got upset because her mum came with me and said that since her wedding was 3 months after ours our planning had to take priority at that stage.

- FSIL is now 6 or 7 months preggers (planned)

- I had a phone call from H2B this arvo, they had a chat today about the weddings and we're getting accused of stealing their ideas, or something. Argh, so many out of line things that just make me want to scream....
Like:
- What, Nic's veil has gold in it? But we're having gold.
- Have you decided what kind of cake you're having yet, well we can't decde until you do.
- Oh, that's what I wanted to do with my hair, now I'm going to have to change or it'll be too much alike
- I bet Nic is still losing weight. I'm not going to be the right shape for my dress.
- Why isn't mum telling Nic what dress she has to wear, they're not butting in as much on your wedding, it's so unfair (the ILs are paying for a significant amount of their wedding as they can't afford what they're having and we're paying for ours ourselves)

I am so tempted to just start being sickly nice to her about it all just to annoy her...bah, what's the point. I just started knitting a baby blanket for the bub, undoubtedly she'll find some flaw in the giving of it.

Any way, I don't think I'm really making much sense, just wanted to get it off my chest.

Thanks for reading this far.

How frustrating! I don't have that problem, just annoying FMIL and FSIL!

All you can do is plan what you want, and don't give a second thought to what they say. If you have decided on how you are doing your hair she can't say she was going to do exactly that like you stole her idea! You can't read her mind!

Anyway, I hope it all works out, just remember, your the better person here for not being the one that complains all the time! I'm sure your wedding will be fab, then you can wait 3 months and see how many of YOUR ideas she stole! Haha.

Good luck!

Go the sickly sweet darling.....and I think this is the perfect time to stop telling your FSIL anything about the wedding...and if she asks, would it be wrong to "mislead" her?
I think the underlying issue here is jealousy and I'm sorry it is affecting your wedding planning bliss.

Hugs Kitty

I think you made perfect sense. How bloody annoying! Is there anyway that from now on all information on your wedding can be withhled from FSIl? Maybe tell all the family that your keeping things secret so its all a nice suprise on the day, and ask FMIL to keep it secret for this reason?

Other than that i have no advice. I know she doesnt deserve you being nice to her, but i like the idea of you doing it to annoy her