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Aww honey (((hugs))) I feel for you I really know how it feels and I'm also having one of those days. I've learnt to not tell my Mum anything cause she will always find faults and cause a scene and like your Mum doesn't care where she does it and then tries to turn it around on you.

My mother did this to me today when I was having a cry about my BM (see Bridezilla). I had to tell her to calm down and that I don't want her to fix it just to listen and sympathise with me. She said the only time I call her is when I have a problem - whatever. I was letting her know her hoping that she might have some nice words to say. Pfft as if.

xox

You know Mum's get real funny when their daughters are getting married. my mum has become a strange one, hating everything I want, thinking I am stupid for looking at stuff now (she was married 8 months after meeting my dad) and just being very negative about the whole thing. I've spoken to other girls who have had similar expereinces and it seems like a wire connects itself somewhere different in the brain of our dear mum's.

Bring up things delecately and expect strange comments, and just remember "My Mum has become an Alien and will return to normal eventually " remeber she now needs to deal with the fact that she's actually old enough to have a married daughter, that might freak her out a bit.

Oh BOy! Hun, I have been through the same with my mum. I think they find it hard when their daughters get married. Hang in there, It will all be worth it on your BIG day!

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remember that, disappointing as it is, you cant 'fix' your mum. all you can do is minimise the damage

my mum gets really really stressed and nervous, all the time conning herself that she is the calm, reasonable one. especially at formal occassions - have no idea why, maybe she has issues from her childhood? - when i was getting ready for my year 11 formal, the stress was radiating off her in waves and it made me completely freak out and be so nervous that i had a completely sh-t time all night and thought i looked atrocious. same with yr 12. contrast the uni balls where i got ready without her, had a few pre-dinner champagnes and had an absolute ball.

so now, i know what's coming at least. i am avoiding her when i get ready on the day and throughout my plan is to just paste a placid smile on my face and (like the fruche ad says) 'go to my happy place' whenever she comes near me. heheh