I was wondering what everyone calls their inlaws or their future inlaws.

Chris's Mum just told me that it is Polish tradition to call her Mama after we are married. Seems a bit strange to call someone other that my real mum Mum though.
Right now I (and h2b) call his mum Bubu, which is just a silly nickname.
We call his Dad Gogus (gog-osh), which is a word that mean a little fellow all dressed up in his best. He gets embarrassed when I call him this around other Polish people who know what it means! Sometimes I shorten this to just Gogsy.

H2B also calls them Mum and Dad (in Polish). He calls my parents by their first names.

I never called either of them Mr/Mrs or by their names.

What do you call yours?

Rob's dad and step mum are called by their names and he calls my mum and dad by their names too. I know that they'd like it, but I just can't bring myself to call someone else Dad or Mum... Rob said that he might call my Mum, Mum after we were married (his mum passed away when he was 16), but he didn't end up doing it.

By their first names...

Always have, always will.

To their face? Just kidding..

I call my in laws by their first name usually or their nickname.

I couldn't imagine ever calling them any version of mum and dad.

not being rude - but i usually refer to them now as 'your ma' and 'your pa' as they are not here so i dont speak to them that often.

when i was over there i just called them by their first names - i think?

i am not sure what i'll do after the 28th...another thing for the checklist

I can't say on here what I call his mother!

I call his Dad by his first name (and so does he actually)

I call them both by their first names, I could never call them mum and dad, thats just a bit too out there for me.

I call them by their first name and he calls my parents by their first name. Always have and always will, works for us.

By their first names here too!

by their 1st names. Once my SIL and i called her mum, as a joke and she went off at us saying she wasn't our mother. hahaha

thats the reaction we were fishing for

I call them both by their first names........If they had nicknames I would call the by that but they are way too straight-laced to have nicknames

They had been calling me by my proper name for 10 years until I finally cracked it and told them that not even my mother calls me by my real name

First names here, too - for both myself and HTB.

I call them Mr and Mrs X, they've never offered for me to call them anything else. H2B calls my parents by their first names, they told him to stop calling them Mr and Mrs X years ago! Wish my future in laws would return the favour.

My future inlaws want me to call them Mum and Dad - they sign all their cards/emails etc to me with this. But it just doesnt feel right to me? I have a mum and dad! So I just call them by their first names (called them Mr and Mrs for the first few months of seeing Mark though).

The broom riding bag, and the jellyfish.

hahaha,

I am horrible.

I guess when I see them I will call them their first names.. that is as long as I am not belting his mother for being derogatory to her son AGAIN.

The woman never wanted children and isnt afraid to let her son know that, at EVERY ocassion.

Rissa, you're not the horrible one, by the sounds of things! I don't get some mums..

Anyway..

I call them by their first names too, and that probably won't change.

So am I the only one who calls my IL's mum and dad?
And I call the boys grandparents grandma and grandpa and nanna and pa too!

They've been so fantastic about accepting me as a part of the family and going all out for us that I really feel like a part of the clan now and have adopted them as my own

h2b and I call inlaws by either their nickname or their first name. I am like others...would be way too weird to call them mum & dad

I call them by their first names, although usually when I speak to them I don't even use their names in conversation. If I'm refering to them (ie talking to H2B about them) I'll say "your Mum" or "your Dad".

By their first names & Michaels is the same with my parents.

I can't envisiage calling someone other than my own parents 'Mum' & 'Dad'.

xoxo

My H2B told me to call his parents Mr and Mrs ____, so I do. Apparently when we're married I'm supposed to call them Mum and Dad. I don't like either version, I'd prefer to just call them by their first names (which is waht he calls my parents!)

i call them by their names i dislike them so much thats all i can manage

We both do first names.

I call h2b's parents by their title; Dr. ___ and Dr. ____. In my culture it's rude to call your elders by their first name and I can't go past that. H2b sometimes makes fun of me and would say "Why don't you just call my mum Assoc Prof while you're at it." I don't know what I'll call them when we're married.

At the moment I just call them by their first names, however H2B sister in law calls them Mum & Dad so I guess they will expect the same from me. Just don't think I can do that.

Oh I just remembered at FBIL wedding during FFIL speech he did say to FSIL, I would be honoured if you called me Dad. Hope he doesn't do the same at my wedding..... It is very sweet, and lovely to be accepted into their family, but then it would seem rude not to call them mum and dad.

Lucky they live in NZ.

i call them by their first names....& he calls mine by their first names.

I try to avoid calling them anything, and somehow manage to get through our conversations without having to address them by a title/name.

DH calls my parents mum & dad!

Well I dont think my option was there for what I call my FMIL (sorry Im just being nasty).

I call them by their first names .I would never ever feel comfortable calling them mum or dad because well really they are not my Parents

Up until we were engaged, I called my PIL Dr X and Mrs X.

After we became engaged they asked me to call them by their first names, which I do, but sometimes I would prefer to call them Dr X and Mrs X.

I call my MIL, FIL and their respective partners, all by their first names. My husband calls my parents by their first names, although sometimes he calls my mum "Mum" and my Dad "Mr Sam" when he's feeling dorky!

I call FIL by his name, MIL gets "crazy lady"

I could never call anyone other than my own parents mum and dad...would feel too weird. I have a friend who calls her parents in law mum and dad, she said its a little weird when she does it as it makes her feel like her husband is her brother! I call them by their first names, as does H2B with my parents.

By their first names here too, for both of us

Ok My MIL
I call the b!tch

and my FIL

The w@nker

Long story

we dont keep in contact

I do this sort of too.

The first time I met them I said the "Nice to meet you Mr and Mrs....." and MIL said to call her by her first name but FIL didn't. Now that we are married, I feel weird saying Mr.... so I just don't really call him anything. DH's BIL call them Mum and Dad and while I completely feel a part of their family, I only have one mum and dad.

Unless they insist on it, but I feel I already have a dad - although we don't get along so the name has negative connotations for me - and I love my stepdad to bits but he's still his name regardless

Mel x

I call them by their names.. that's what they prefer and I'm happy to do what people prefer but my h2b isn't allowed to call my parents by their names hehee... (a Chinese thing).. he calls my dad Mr ___ and my mum the Chinese word for 'mum'.. it's pretty funny!

I call my MIL "Milly" as it's derived from "MIL" LOL

I don't call his dad anything as i have never met him

So other for both!

I call Nick's parents by their names but Nick calls my parents by their family nicknames that our cousins call them Mr and Mrs Bear (cos of their bear hugs!)

When I have to call them something, I use their names.. but when I can help it I don't call them anything. MIL wants me to call her Mumum. I just can't do it. It's not just me right? It is weird??

My BIL calls them 'the old geesers' but only he would get away with that cos the sun shines out of his butt.

My hubby calls my parents Mama & Papa (we are dutch). He says it's not weird cos they're different names to what he calls his parents IYKWIM. He's called them that since we got engaged.

Mum and Dad. I call my step-parents in law by their first names though. My dad died when I was six so I haven't had anyone to call dad for a long time - it's nice. D calls my mum by her first name.

I call my FMIL and FFIL by their first names. It only took one Mrs. ___ to be told 'It's L not Mrs. ___'. They're the lovelies FPIL that you could ever meet!!

My H2B calls my parents by their first names. He worked for them for 7 years so it's always been first names.

Cxx

I call my father in law and his wife by their first names. My mil died many years ago.

I never called my FIL 'Mr X' - I would have been in big trouble! I do recall calling him Judge X once though before he told me not to!

My husband calls my parents by their first names, and uses the names I use for my grandparents (Russian and Polish names). I use the family's nickname for his grandmother too.

Use their names... but soon it will be Gran & Pop!

I call them by their first names. I wouldn't want to call anyone other than my parents 'Mum' & 'Dad'.

By their first names, and sometimes something ruder in private

I have always used their first names and will never use Mum and Dad -that is a special thing reserved for my own parents

I call Andrew's parents by their first names, though I have to admit I avoid doing it. I also occasionally call his mum 'Mummy number 4' as something of a joke (there is an explanation, but I can't be bothered)

i must be one of the only ones....

i calll his parents now both mum and dad.....means a lot to me that i can, and my parents are fine with it!

You're not the only one Mixgirl. Mr IP calls my parents Mama and Baba. As we don't speak to Mr IP's dad and stepmum, I have never had to call them anything.

When Mr IP and I were dating and engaged, he would call my parents Uncle and Aunty, which is a generic title of respect in Chinese culture.

I second that.

To me its a token of respect, it's the way I was brought up. My fiance even calls my mum and grandparents as mum, grandma & grandpa !