Yes the emotional side has started- and IM NOT HAPPY! (ive been so good so far)

Everything sends me to tears. The stupidest thing sends me to tears.

I just had a huge cry feast tonight because Simon thought something I bought for the baby was a bit of a waste of money. I bought some baby powder, baby wipes and some cream that is used for nappy rash. He said whats the point the rash cream when we have no idea if the baby will even GET nappy rash. I said I got it so he didnt have to go searching at 1am one day for an all night chemist when and IF the baby gets nappy rash.

It then went onto how I think he wont let me spend money for the baby.

And then it went onto how I said he doesnt care for the baby.

He reakens I read too much about this pregnancy and obsess. I said to him, I bought the nappy rash cream as the Choice book said its a good idea. He said, you read too much and obsess.

Well someone has to give a sh*t considering he doesnt seem to. I asked why he didnt seem to care and he said "because its not happening to me".

Why can men be SUCH PIGS and why am I GOING OVER THE TOP.

I have another 17 weeks of this.. god help us and our marriage.

Did any others of you go stupidly emotional and how did you and your hubbies cope?

Oh Nat!

Honestly it does get better, the tears that is. Then when bubs arrive they come back for a little while

HUGS

As for your husband, I don't know what to say cause my husband never question me and generally understood cause he knew everything my sister had for our neice. Hopefully he will come around babes and I am sure that he does care about the baby he just might not know how to show it.

Krys

Oh hon i know those feelings all to well.

to tell you the truth Mick didnt cope, the last 2 months of my pregnancy were hell on our marriage and both of us said alot of things that we didnt mean. But now things are back to the way they were before the evil hormones took over my body.

I hope things improve for you.
(((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

(((HUGS))) chickie,

norti husbands!!

You know where I am.

OMG Nat, and after he was such an angel of a husband yesterday!

For goodness sake, how much was the nappy cream? $7.00? Why don't you tell Simon if it's bugging him that much all us gals will chip in 50cents each and that should make up for it

But seriously, I sorta know how you're feeling. I haven't gottentoo emotional... yet. However, I think DH has similar feelings about buying too much. I feel part of it is they just have no idea. You are right, baby will probably get nappy rash, and even he doesn't, it can be used as prevention can't it? And this way you won't be rushing out to buy it in the middle of the night or when you don't have as much spare cash.

My simon said something similar about clothes last weekend... I have only bought 2 bonds wondersuits in 000, and then we got given 3 PP body suits in 000. I was talking about shopping for more and DH said "I think we've got enough clothes to last for weeks" ! I just LMAO, like I said before, no idea!!!!

Virtual hugs comin your way Natty, and remember, it's possible Simon is just having a bad day, or stressing about money momentarily. He is excited about BB, I know from things you've said previously, and heis going to make a wonderful daddy.

I put nappy reash cream on Hayden EVERY nappy change,it actually helps prevent it. Some men have no idea.

Dont worry Nat, eveyone goes through that stage. The first time I did was when David orded me the wrong pizza topping, I bawled my eyes out. Poor guy didn't know what to do I was crying so hard, he was telling me its only pizza, which made me cry more.

Hugs babe, it will get better.

It must be the May Mummy week for it Nat!

I have just been crying for no reason, the tears just well up and it comes. Started getting teary when we were picking out things at the plumbing store yesterday- the chick who we've been dealing with for months leant over and said "A tad emotional today are we?" and I couldn't stop. And here I am excited we will have a bath and toilet inside our house.

Last night I was crying at bedtime because DH was neglecting me. He WAS neglecting me because he was carrying all my boxes of rubbish downstairs so he can renovate the nursery, and rest of our house. What a silly girl I am!

Then the night before I was really emotional- I was thinking about how my Mum has bipolar, and how I've escaped it, but my brother hasn't, but will I end up like that and hurt our kids the way she hurt me. DH was very very kind that night.

Anyway, I'm putting it down to hormone week. Surely the boys know not to argue with it and let us go?

Ohhhh yeah....I remember the overemotional bit. I used to get SSSSSSSOOOOOOOOOO upset every time I saw the Natural Confectionary Company ad on TV. You know the one where the little girl says "Don't chop the dinosaur Daddy!"? I would cry every time because she didn't give a damn about the snake that her Daddy chopped before he pulled the dinosaur out of the packet. Poor Marty got to the point where he would change channels during ad breaks to avoid that ad. And if he couldn't avoid it? Well, he got really good at passing me tissues...heaps of them!

He did admit (once Bronte was born) that he couldn't even contemplate the effect of all those baby making hormones on my body and that although he got irritated by my moods or emotions there was no point in saying anything as he did (eventually!) realise it wasn't something I could control.

Ok on the nappy rash issue, hayley is 5 weeks old and I just changed her to notice a nappy rash. So the cream is needed.

Tell Simon from me that I have about 5 things of nappy rash cream and Im not even pregnant...

So stick that in ya pipe and smoke it Simey....

Seriously hun you should know men are boff heads..Havent u been reading that book u sent me????

Oh Nat, doesn't it suck?

Men don't always understand everything that we need to go through in this process (including shopping!).

Fred is the same about the forums etc, but I just say tough, I'd like to be informed..... and if it wasn't for these forums, we wouldn't know to demand certain stuff at our doc appts etc etc

He's prob just tired as well, I'm sure he will become his usual caring wonderful self soon..

Hugs Hon

Awww poor teary Natser

Yeah, I was nuts for a few weeks there too, I wasnt grumpy with Dave, I just thought I would be Drusilla the evil mother from hell and that I would hate parenthood and wouldnt cope... Dave just cuddled me, and made me tea, and said he would look after all of us... The insanity will come back again I'm sure... Silly boys they just dont get it.

Its hard to not obsess - society obsesses about our every move as pg ppl... In the lunch room at work,-everyone has to say something, what are you eating? craving? are you taking this? dont do that? dont wear that? Dont travel there... The world is obsesed with us! Ppl on the street even...

And conversely we can feel so out of control with the whole thing that reading and knowing as much as you can, helps to make you feel like it will all be alright...

You may want to remind him 'hello, I'm growing 2 brains right now... how I could I not want to read about that!'

And He maybe becoming that alpha male and worring about all $, and providing etc...

Also, you're nesting and its a part of the process too... you need to be and feel ready...

He CANT understand what its like, cause its a million differnt things every second... Only thing to suggest is to breath, and maybe come to a budget about spending for the baby that you both agree on?

Oh Nat - hugggggs.

I've Pm'd you.

The nappy rash cream will be really useful hon.

When the baby has nappy rash and Simon says you need some cream, make him go out at some ungodly hour and get some. Use the one you bought as your secret stash - that'll teach him.

The thing I say to my DH about buying stuff is that I am keeping the receipt so if I don't use it I can return it for something else.

On the emotional thing. I had a cry yesterday over just feeling not so good. We went to a 4wd beach which involved a few bumps along the way (which hurt a few areas of my not so stable body) and I just wasn't feeling the best and hubby wants to go the long way home so we can go 4wd over a few more bumps...

Yep, the tears are great aren't they... I cried at work the other day.... and I've only ever done that once...

All I can say is go with the tears.. then when you are feeling a bit more emotionally in control, talk to Simon about the stuff that is bothering you... it comes across so much more effectively when you're not crying...

Good luck Nat, Hugs to you

Julz