|QUOTE (~Alicia~ @ Dec 7 2005, 03:19 PM)|
| What do you mean by that?|
It shouldnt matter where anyone feeds their baby bottle or breast why should we get disaproving looks at all?
|I mean if anyone is disapproving of the bottle, it is because they are judging you on bottlefeeding, whereas if people are disapproving of b/f it is because they don't want to see the breast, even though they may 'approve' of breastmilk in theory.|
|QUOTE (~Alicia~ @ Dec 7 2005, 05:02 PM)|
So why is it ok for them to judge us but its not ok for them to judge you?
|QUOTE (lee_p @ Dec 7 2005, 04:52 PM)|
| I think Mer is just trying to say that either way people are going to disapprove. |
The fact that there are people saying they don't like to see women BF. But you can't win either way because you get the disapproving looks then for bottle feeding.
Am I kinda onto what you were trying to say Mer??
|QUOTE (~Alicia~ @ Dec 7 2005, 12:51 PM)|
|Bottle feeders cop the same amount of discrimination as breastfeeders do trust me.|
|QUOTE (Belladoah @ Dec 7 2005, 07:08 PM)|
| As a woman who simultaneously breast and bottle fed her baby, I can say you can't win either way, if you are trying to avoid the judgemental people. |
Breastfeed, especially out in public, and you get the "looks" as if you are exposing yourself for fun, bottlefeed anywhere, and you get judgement, especially from staunch breastfeeders who don't realise there are valid reasons why some women don't breastfeed, because they have no personal experience with those issues.
I could only feed from one breast due to med probs with the other, and because my son was a big feeder, he couldn't get enough milk just from that one side, I just couldn't keep up production! So the lactation specialist had me bottle feeding to supplement the one sided-breast feeding, lol. Complicated, yes, but it certainly gave me a good look at both pros and cons, and the judgements thrown at you on either option!
|Do you want more time to spend nurturing your children?|
Are you sick of having to field curly questions about your childraising methids?
Then try "Mummy suit" it's 100% teflon, so all those thoughtless comments slide right off, and it's fully machine washable, which leaves more time for you and the kids!
only $59.95... buy one NOW... works during pregnancy too!
|QUOTE (lexwithbub @ Dec 7 2005, 07:44 PM)|
| Yeah, and this is the problem with society as a whole...|
us poor mums just never seem to be able to get it right...
not matter WHAT decision we make there is always SOMEONE frowning down on us. DARN mother guilt!
What a bad mother...
she's bottle feeding
she's letting her baby cry
she's pandering to her child and giving them everything they want
she's letting them run loose
she's putting her child in a harness
she's ignoring her child's tantrum
she's disciplining her child too harshly
She's going to work and leaving her child in daycare
She's staying at home and not contributing
she's having too many kids
she's having not enough kids
they're too close together
they're too far apart
she breast fed for too long
not long enough
No bloody wonder half of us end up bloody depressed and on antidepressants...
She's taking medication while breastfeeding
she stopped taking her medication... ...for a while then went back on it
I reckon that being a mum is such a bloody hard job, especially with all the crap that we cop...
If I wanna raise my child THIS way as opposed to THAT way, and it's not going to hurt or endanger my child, then i'm gonna DO IT MY WAY, and I dont' give a flying banana what you think. end of story.