Kate,

The original dress you had wasnt that bad and can be jazzed up with a bit of imagination and diamanties and pearls.I would do this and save the dollars for the reception that you really want as what you are going to remember most of the day is your reception.Remember also that you are looking at that dress without the full effect of makeup,hair,veil and flowers which will make a big difference to what it looks like on the day.


What is more important to you a dress that you can put up with and jazz up if you want.Or a reception that is only part of what could have been.


kathyxx

I suppose so!

I wish we could just win the lotto!

Even then, all Id do is get a new dress, and maybe hire some nicer cars!

Just rang our photographer and shes booked for the 25 March.

GRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cant have 25 Feb for a number of reasons.

So now it looks like its either earlier in Feb or April (definately not the 1st!). I wont be a marchie at all anymore!

Im going to check our contract with the photographer. If we only lose the $100 booking fee, we might be willing to cut our losses.

Im getting so fricken frustrated.

ETA:
A sunday wedding is not possible to do logistics of people travelling, work/kids school the next day etc etc.

Ive just got my fingers crossed for tomorrow! I feel like I NEED this to go my way to lift my spirits about everything. If this works, then Ive got a good feeling about everything else falling into place.

Ive got matt looking for the photographers contract, and if we only loose the $100 deposit, then I think Im willing to cut our losses and look elsewhere. (my cousin has all these cheap contacts (shes a beautician! Need I say more!) so I might get her to call in a favour for me!

Kathy, Amanda's package sounds great. In all the packages I checked out when we were looking for a venue (and there was HEAPS!!), I have never seen a package that includes hairstyles or the disposable camera's. That's a great time and money saver.

Kate, the extra $15ph sucks!! It's amazing how things just add up. You think your on budget, then all of a sudden...your over!!! Very frustrating!! One of the guys I work with was telling me that he has a client that is organising a wedding at the moment and it is costing $200,000!!!! Can you believe that . Two HUNDRED thousand dollars!! I can't even begin to imagine how you could spend that much money on a wedding!!

Anyway, back to the reality of our weddings, Kate, I think your dress looks fine and as Kathy said, once you add jewellery, hair, veil etc, you may feel differently. In terms of dress vs. venue, I think it will depend on how each effects your mood. What I mean is, if you truly hate your dress (and it sounds like you do), is that going to effect how you feel for the whole day - regardless of where your reception is, or do you think that you can forget about the dress and enjoy your reception and day. And on the other side, if you are wearing a dress that you love and feel great in, will that carry you through everything, even if the reception isn't 100% what you wanted?

I'd wait until you visit the reception and try to imagine both scenario's - dress you are really happy with, reception so-so and dress not so happy with and reception you love. Which do you think will make you happier on the day???

I know your already over budget (and you've probably already done this), but can you check out e-bay and some of the OS sites (like the one you found for Laurette) to see if you can find a dress you love but at a cheaper price. Laurette's dress was beautiful and at a great price. Can you stretch the budget an extra couple of hundred $$$. (although, this is how we get over budget - bit here, bit there!!!). I so feel for you. Why can't we just have everything????

Best of luck with the venue tomorrow!! We'll be thinking of you!!

Jo.

I just wanted to say hello to everyone.

Kate - bummer. I have a budget similar to yours and so far am on track. This has mainly been due to us having a stand-up cocktail reception (at about $55 per head). I had to change my date from April to March, but hadn't booked anything yet. We may also still change our reception place (event though we've paid a $400 deposit already) but as long as the total cost is still reasonable I'm happy.

About your dress - I agree that you should think about what's going to matter most to you on the day and affect your ability to enjoy yourself. Personally, my reception venue is fine (not fantastic) and the food will be lovely (not fabulous) but all my friends and family will be there, smiling and dancing, and that's what I'm focussing on. The dress, however, is all about me, me, me so I'm paying much more attention to that of course!!! Just my opinion though...

Good luck tomorrow Kate hope everything falls into place for you and your feeling a bit better about it all come monday.

Kathyxxx

Q1.Who is having a package deal for reception
I'm having a stand-up cocktail do, with finger food (hot and cold) and drinks (beer/wine/soft drink) for four hours, for around $55 per head (plus $400 booking fee). I have to organise the DJ and decs myself.

Q2.Who is having coffetti,bubbles or rice
Nope

Q3.Who is having Save the Date cards
Nope

Q4.Who is having father/daughter dance
Nope - I'll struggle to get H2B to dance with me!

Q5 Who is having flat heels /high heels
Kitten heels for me - I was BM at my sister's wedding and wore huge heels, ended up with swollen sore feet 2 hours in to it!

Q6 Who is having two bouquets(one to keep one to throw)
Nope - not doing the throw and may actually wear a wrist corsage in place of a bouquet.

Q7 Who is having a garter
Nope (hmmm...I'm starting to sound a bit boring I think...)

Q8 How many bridesmaids/groomsmen
2 of each

Q9 Who is having parents of B/G at bridal table or do they have their own table
No tables - stand up. Luckily I don't have to deal with a setaing plan 'cause my wedding will be the first time my mum and dad see each other in about 12 years!

Q10 Beside FG/PB who is having kids at wedding
No kiddies at ours

Thanks gals!

Ive been such a negative bloody whinger lately! Thanks for putting up with me

Hopefully after this weekend we'll do a big 180 and charge full steam ahead!

And best thing about monday!!!

LAURETTE WILL BE BACK!!!!!!

Yes Laurette will be back yeah.Wonder if her gown is here yet.

Amanda and Paddy will be back from Bali so will be able to hear all about thier trip.

kathyxxx

OMG how is he handling it the poor thing?How are you holding up to news like that was she a good friend of yours as well as being his wife?

Hope everything works out well for your brother Im thinking of him as this has happened to my sister just recently after 18yrs of marriage.

kathyxxx

I called him and he said he is ok, but I think he's just saying that. Ive offered to fly up there to help him out with kids going to school etc for a few weeks til things get sorted out. So I could very well be in Bris in a few days to help him out. he wil let me know tomorrow.

Too much going on for me atm, yesterday was my last day of work before we move, there are boxes all around the house and removalists come on Tues to take our stuff to Melb... H2B is very understanding thank God.. he gets to unpack the house all by himself if I go to QLD, lucky him!

Hang in there and keep your chin up.Not something that you need to have happen in your life when your planning your wedding.

Kathyxx

I'm looking at 'This Year's Love' by David Gray, or 'Bus Ride' by Alex Lloyd for the aisle walk. I'd love to play The Dandy Warhols 'Bohemian Like You' as we kiss and then walk back down the aisle!!

I'm having a civil ceremony at my friend's Bed and Breakfast, so there are no restrictions (traditionally speaking) on what we can have. I'd really like to have some happy and fun music, whatever it ends up being.

I haven't thought about any other music - we're not having a bridal waltz or bouquet toss. Maybe 'I Believe in a Thing Called Love' by The Darkness for our entry!!

Hi gals!

Firstly - Ellerson, Im very sorry to hear about your brother. No advice, but feel free to vent here!

Secondly - LAURETTE WHERE ARE YOU!!!!!!!!! I know youre online today... waiting for your official IM BACK post!

Thirdly, about ME (as usual)! Saturday went really well... maybe too well! It was absolutely STUNNING! Unfortunatly I had a massive wedding overload yesterday and have hit a wall atm.

Im at the point where I HAVE to book something, but Im just not in the frame of mind to deal with it.

We dont know whether to push the date back, which could be even worse, cos I have extra time to stress about this sh!t, or bring it forward, which we cant afford!

Im in a bit of a funk at the moment, but Im sure I'll work my way out of it! I had a bit of a spit at matt last night, and he was really good about it, and admitted he isnt helping by telling me he doesnt want to talk about it sometimes.

Anyway... Im going to make some phonecalls this morning that will make a lot of difference.

Hope you all had a great weekend!!!

Hi everyone,
Hope everyone had a good and productive weekend.Amanda and Paddy are back from Bali safe and well so we will hear all about their travels when she settles back in to aussie time.


Laurette how are you feeling?And most importantly did your dress arrive yet?

Kate glad to see that your Saturday was a success now you have to make a decision on where to have reception and that all important date.Just promise us all if you end up being a April Bride you will still post in here and keep us up to date with your plans.


Kathyxxx

Hope everything works out ok Kate.

Good luck to all with the planning process. I have nearly given up its not a priority at the moment!! Will start to plan again once we get settled



ps Im most likely going to Brisbane to help Bro out not this week but next week - with his kids etc til he can work something out

Well the removalists are here wanting to pack up my computer, so better go for now....See you all in a week or 2 when we unpack everything!!

Ciao!!

Elle,
Have a safe trip to Melbourne and have fun unpacking.Hope everything works out ok for your brother.

Kathyxxx

Looks like we'll be pushing our wedding back to May, but I couldnt be happier!!! Just need to co-ordinate dates, but Im pretty confident, with it still being 12 months away and not as popular a month as March!

It really is perfect and exactly what we wanted!

It also gives us an extra 2 months to save (even tho in reality, we've got nearly enough in savings to cover it! I just fret about money! Especially cos of the nature of our jobs!)

Ive said it before, I'll always post in this thread... even if I brought it forward to december, I was going to stay put!

You cant get rid of me that easy!!!

Kate,

May is not that far away and as you said gives you a bit more time to save $$$$$ as long as your happy with it thats the main thing.Glad to see you will be staying put with march girls.

Kathyxxx

Hi girls

I am back. And I am SO proud of you all for getting this many pages done while I was away.

I am going to bore you all with the long story of my week off...

Surgery was OK - although I am looking into private health insurance today, as the public hospital that I stayed in was such a hole. It was disgusting. I am sure that it's not the fault of the staff there, but when you are about to throw up and feel like you are going to pass out and press your buzzer, you dont expect to wait 25 minutes for a nurse. If I had been sick (thankfully I wasnt until I got home) they would have been cleaning up all over the place! I couldnt get out of bed by myself so I was just fretting. Thankfully I managed to keep it down.

I went in and I wasnt even allowed to wear knickers! so had my bare bum out for all the world to see which was very undignified. They had to do pre-surgery blood reports etc, so had lots of tests there and for the first time ever I had high blood pressure. I am sure that it was just what they call white-coat surgery.

I got my stockings on and then the wardsman came and got me, and I went down to theatre.

The anaethsists assistant was very very spunky until he pulled my gown up and stuck monitoring things all over me (thank god I had had a wax) and then from then on I didnt like him much. I had a thing put in my arm with a great deal of difficulty, and it hurt. I went in to the anaesethic room and the leading anaethasist, who was an Indian lady stick insect, said to me 'it really would be in your best interest to lose some weight' I felt like headbutting her real hard but managed to restrain myself. Um, duh, this operation is the reason that I have put on so much weight you fruit loop.

So I went in and had to get on the table myself (was told this would be done after I was knocked out). Was very cold on my bare bum. Then they had a mask over my face and it felt like forever until I started feeling sleepy. I just wanted to be knocked out already - I was sick of it and it was only 8.10am.

Then when I woke up I cried and cried and demanded to see Glenn so they put me back to sleep by sticking a needle in that famous bare bum.

At 1.30pm I went to my room and I have never ever been so glad to see my beautiful boy - ever. He was a sight for sore eyes.

Glenn stayed with me until 8.30 - half an hour after visiting hours finished. I cried and cried when he had to leave and that's the time that the horrible nurse was on duty too. I didnt like her AT ALL.

They gave me tea (chicken casserole) on Saturday night which was OK and then later realised that I was only supposed to have clear fluids. Oops. I had lots of issues with going to the loo - have you every tried to use a bed pan while horizontal? Tell me you have and then you can laugh. So I had to get up and sit on the chair. More undignified times.

I slept a bit, which was OK but they come around all the time and checked my drip every hour and shine the torch on you to make sure you're still alive and everything. It's terrible being disrupted all the time.

The next day was OK - I was allowed to walk to the loo and sat in the chair most of the day as that was more comfortable than lying down for some reason. I read lots of magazines. Glenn watched TV and helped me when I had to get up and down and in and out of bed.

The doctors came and said that I wasnt allowed to go home due to the fact that I had a 6cm hole across my chest where they had cut an artery by mistake and had to find it again to seal it. Because of the blood, they had to rinse me out with heaps of salt water, and because of all the water, I had a maxi vac drain stuck in my guts until Tuesday afternoon which was pumping some sort of crap out of me. I was painful and it hurt like hell coming out. But once it was out, I felt heaps better and could finally get around OK, not having to carry a bag of blood with me to the loos every half hour.

When Glenn left that night I cried for hours and hours. The OC was a haze of tears and I didnt sleep hardly a wink. I asked for something to help me sleep, but for some reason, it just didnt work properly.

The next morning I got up and showered, had all my dressings removed and was ready to leave when Glenn arrived at 9.30. We got out of there about 10.15 which was good.

It was such a relief to get home, and I am sure that Glenn was glad to be home as well instead of stuck there with me all day.

Thursday was a bad, bad day. My body finally purged the effects of the anasethic chemicals and I spent all day with a bucket.

Right up until Satuday afternoon Glenn was helping me get up and down and about, but yesterday I made myself do it all myself as I had to come back to work today. I dont know that I will last the distance this afternoon. I might stay home at lunch I think.

If you made it this far, thanks for listening.

Promise that I will next post re weddings!


Luv Laurette

Hi Laurette,

Glad to see that you are back and survived your hospital ordeal.How beautiful is that man of yours for being there for you when you woke up and then to look after you post op at home three cheers to Glenn .Anyway take care and take it easy.

Kathyxxx

My poor buddy....you sound just awful. I'm pleased you've gone home now...you need to rest and eat some nice things to build you up again. I moved house on the weekend and I'm still unpacking which means my kitchen isn't really operational...otherwise I'd courier you some homemade soup.

(((((HUGE HUGS)))))

PS To all the March girls...hope all your planning is going well. I can tell you now that March is a fantastic time to get married.

Laurette,

Sounds like you are glad its all over!

Lots of hugs!

Amanda

Hello girls

Im glad everything is our and done with now Laurette.

Anyone who want a Ch*c*h*lics An*nym*us Catalogue let me know.

Bec

Welcome back Laurette! Your hospital experience didn't sound too good at all (although I did have a little chuckle at the cute anaesthetist' assistant and stick insect lady ). I'm so glad Glenn was there for you. It sounds like he's done a great job looking after you. Just make sure you take it easy!

Elllison, I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. He must be completely devastated. Did he have an idea that something was going on, or did it come completely by surprise?

Yeah for Kate! You sound much happier after the weekend. If you end up changing to May, does this mean you might be able to get a new dress with the extra couple of months saving??

Kathy, I'm glad Amanda and Paddy are back safely (welcome back Amanda!!). You can rest a bit easier now.

Hi Bec! So, what is the Ch0c0h0l!cs An0nym0us catalogue all about??

I had an absolute flat out weekend, so am feeling buggered. My H2B has had to go to Perth for work. He found out on Friday and flew out yesterday. I miss him already . The worse thing is that he doesn't know how long he'll be there for. Could be 1 week, could be 3!

Jo.

Hi Jo

Does H2b go away lots? Poor bugger. I hated it when matt went away, and that was for like 5 days!

Yep feeling heaps better about it all!! Just waiting on confirmation from my photographer that shes available on the 13th (which is Matts dads bday... but oh well!).

Matt overheard me telling mum that I dont like my dress... then on the way home he asked about it, and I just sort of brushed it off thinking he'd get really mad at me about it, and he surprisingly told me to put it on Ebay and start again. I did the whole 'oh no, we cant afford it, I'll deal with it' speil (while secretly doing cartwheels on the inside ) and he wouldnt have a bar of it! So thats 2 things to go right in as many days! Told ya that when one thing went our way things would snowball! I also heard him telling mum how impressed he was with our venue, and that its just what he wanted etc etc, which is good, cos he has a habit of just telling me what I want to hear, but he gets on with mum and tells her straight out what hes thinking (then they gang up on me!)

Im so excited now!!!

Kate,
That is so good to hear that everything is falling into place.Now get that dress onto ebay and put the $$$ you get from it towards the dream dress that you want.Sounds like Matt is starting to get into the wedding and not just saying what you want him to say.

Kathyxxx

Hi Kathy!
Bet youre glad to have Amanda back!!!

Yeah Matts really starting to come around. He has 'days' where all he'll talk about is the wedding, then other days, I'll ask him something and I'll get the one syllable replies. Admittedly, I do overload him with flowers and make up and music - not things he really enjoys, then get upset at his lack of interest, so I am equally (if not moreso) to blame!

By the looks of it, our new date is 13 May. Photographer, Gardens, and reception venue are all available on that date - except its Matts dads bday, and theirs a bit of history between the two, so its up to Matt if he is happy to have it then. If not all three are available on the 27 May - although thats getting a bit too far into winter for my liking... but then again, beggars cant be choosers can they!

OK question time. Cos the venue is a lookout, its halfway up a mountain with not much civilisation around. We were thinking of hiring a bus and picking up and dropping people off in the CBD, then that way they all get to the reception at the same time, and afterwards can hit the clubs, or easily grab a cab and head home.

We were speaking to the co-ordinator at the venue and he said that a lot of people just arrange cabs to be there at 11.30 or whatever time their reception finishes. Personally, I dont know about that. It would be at least a $20 cab fare for most people. So for a cab both ways, most people will be spending close to $50 on cabs. We personally think that thats too much to expect, but other people we have spoken to say stuff it - they dont HAVE to drink and can drive up there themselves to avoid paying cab fares, but I want EVERYONE to have a good time. What do you ladies think?

Ellerson, So so so sorry to hear about your brother. I hope that you enjoy the time that you will spend with him up in sunny QLD - I am sure that it will mean the world to him that you are taking the time to go there to support him.

I also understand what you mean about your fiance being your best mate. Glenn is mine - and I love it. I dont have a huge circle of friends, although he does. And all their partners are good friends, yet as I am the latest add-in I still dont sorta fit. I am sure that once you settle into your new home and so on, you will meet some more people who become good friends. Maybe you will have nice neighbours? People at work - that sort of thing. Netball, if you play, I have found is is great way to meet people, regardless of where you live. Remember that you can always vent here!

Yeah Kate! If I could jump up and down and scream and shout I would for you! That's fantastic. So - are you gonna go cream again or get a white dress? Pink and green will still go with white! Have you got anything in mind or are you going to go to stores and try stuff on?

Are you looking forward to going and having a look at the venue?

Did you get my text last night?!?!

OK, I am going to do the questions.

Who is having a package deal for reception? Not us. We are getting our local golf club. We are then hiring a caterer to do the food. Club does the drinks, another lady that I know will make the cake and I will be coordinating the decorations... it's going to be a lot of work, but will be perfect dammit!

Who is having coffetti,bubbles or rice? I definetly want to have bubbles, as we are getting married outside and I want to be able to have a shot of us walking back down the aisle with bubbles everywhere. I saw it in a magazine and have shown my photographer and she loves it too.

Who is having Save the Date cards? I think that maybe it is a bit late to send them now? I am not sure. I would like to do them just so that I have something 'weddingly' to do, but everyone really knows when it is, so there's not much point adding another expense.

Who is having father/daughter dance? I guess that I will have to dance with both my father and stepfather at some point, but it wont be a big deal and certainly not made a fuss over. No special songs will be chosen for it.

Who is having flat heels/high heels? I will be wearing high heels, because you just HAVE to on your wedding day - but I can see them coming off at the reception. I want the ones with the strap over my foot and then a bow around the ankle, something like this.

Who is having two bouquets(one to keep one to throw)? I will be for sure. More more more flowers! I will be putting my original in the fridge as soon as I get to the reception so that it can be preserved, and then will have the throwaway on the table.

Who is having a garter? I am not too sure about this. No garter will be being thrown unless I lose about 40kgs though!

How many bridesmaids/groomsmen is everyone having? Three each - Carla, Allison and Michelle for me, Cameron, Kieran and Marc for Glenn.

Who is having parents of B/G at bridal table or do they have their own table? They will be separted as far as possible from one another. Mum will have to be able to see my real dad to make sure that he is not playing up. I think that my dad will have a whole table to himself because I dont know who to put with him!

Beside FG/PB who is having kids at wedding? None at all - just Glenn's (and soon to be mine) niece and nephew who are going to be the PG and FG.

What gifts are you getting your bridal party members? I have no idea yet. I am sure that the girls will get jewellery of some sort!

What have you got left to plan thats stressing you out? Invitations and decorations are going to become the bane of my existance, I can feel it. Also, we still havent really picked a colour theme - still need to find BM dresses!

What are you looking forward to most? A beautiful sunny day and walking down the aisle to my dear, sweet boy and becoming his wife. I am looking forward to our first dance and also our first night together as H and W. Oh, and the extra bling on my finger of course!

Will you cry walking down the aisle? Will H2B? Is grass green? Damn straight I will - I cry now just THINKING about walking down the aisle!

Do you have your honeymoon sorted? Hell no. Havent even organised the wedding yet!

Are you and h2b still mushy in love, or already an old married couple? A bit of both. We are very mushy, yet oh so comfortable being like an old married couple!

Do you live together already? Yep he moved in to my rented house last August.

Kate,
What you might want to do is ask your guests (if its possible) if they would like to use the bus or prefer the taxi idea or their own transport.No sende in booking the bus if no-one is going to use it.



Yes it is great to have Amanda back.We have spoke on the phone 4times since sunday.She will be back on here when she gets up to date with work etc.


Kathyxxx

Hi Girls,

Has anyone read the news story about the runaway bride in America.Apparantly going on news reports she had a major panick attack 3 days before wedding and went out jogging and didnt come back.A major search was set up to look for her she then realised what she had done so made up some story about being kid napped.But authorities now have proof that she set it up as she had baught a bus ticket before she went missing.All of this just days out from her wedding with 600 guests.Makes you wonder how she will ever face people again and her fiance has said he still wants to marry her.

For the full story type in "runaway bride"or"jennifer wilbanks"


Kathyxxx

I think I heard something about this before....

Mate with 600 guests, Id be running too!!!!

Ok Im confused arent weddings supposed to be for close friends and family.Who has 600 close friends and family.

Kathyxxx

tell me about it.

Im scared I wont get to speak to all my 75 guests... let alone 8 times that many!!

Yeah I have heard about that too - it's been on the news heaps. I will have to go searching for the full story though, I havent heard it.

600 guests? I think that I'd have gone a lot further than jogging... Not that I would have allowed it from the start!

Crikey - I wanted 190 and mum yelled at me, so we're down to 150....

I would freak at even 150.

We could crack 200 without trying I reckon. I couldnt handle it. We've culled and culled, and I thought I had it down to about 65-70...but did a list the other night and it was 76 before I had to even think, so I think we'll end up with somewhere around 80. If I had my way, we would have about 35-40.

Hi,

Just had to share this with you now your talking about guest numbers.I had the grand total of 4ppl at ceremony and 7 ppl at dinner after ceremony.Thats all I wanted at the time as we were together for 10yrs before we married but everynow and again I wish I had had a wedding that all of you girls are having.

kathyxxx

Wow Kathy! I couldnt go THAT small, cos we're both ridiculously close to our immediate families, but Id love just them there! If thats what you wanted at the time, and you stuck to it, then its perfect really isnt it!

I see you're selling your house? Are you moving anywhere interesting?

ETA: Congrats to Kathy for getting 11 pages!

The house is under contract and we still dont know where we will end up.We are looking at the sunshine coast or northern nsw at the moment.I might just buy a combie van paint a peace sign on the front get some dredlocks and take off around australia


My wedding was very small but what we wanted (neither of us is from close families)But have made up for it with Amanda and her brother we are all very close.

Kathyxxx

I say you should move to Coffs Harbour. We lived there for 5 years and its lovely. We lived 20mins north in Sandy Beach, it was gorgeous.

Looking at a place called Wooli which is 1/2 drive east of Grafton and its 3hrs drive north from Amanda 3hrs south from Michael (amandas brother)At the moment we are 14hrs drive from Amanda so we dont get to see each other but down there we will see them all the time.I will just have to adjust to the cold weather after being up here for 9yrs.

Kathyxxx

Coffs/ Grafton is much the same as Brisbane weather-wise from memory.

I want to stop in at coffs on our H/moon.

Wow Kathy, that would be fantastic to be able to be that much closer to your kids. I am sure that it would work well for all of you.

I am 4 hours from my father, and that's too damn close if you ask me! So I am in the opposite situation. I live 40 minutes from mum and Fred, which is great because I can see my little bro's whenever I want then.

That sounds like such a romantic wedding that you had! Some parts of me would love to elope with Glenn - just take our two best mates on a holiday and come back married. But the other (richer) part of me wants the big white fanfare. Who knows why.

To answer the question on what ch*coholics an*nymous is it is a party plan company that sells chocolates.

Bec

Take this little bit of advise from me girls.It was nice to elope with no-one knowing about it but DONT ROB YOURSELVES of a great day even though at the moment you might think that it would be a great idea.And DONT ROB YOUR MUMS of watching their little girls walk down the aisle.

Kathyxxx

That's a very good point Kathy. I know that my mum would be devestated were I to sneak away. She is walking me down the aisle, so she would be extra shattered!

Sounds great Bec. I for one have never had a sweet tooth, my sister has the 'chocolate' gene!

Case in point: I have had a box of the fundraiser freddos on my desk since this morning, and it hasnt even crossed my mind to buy one.

Mind you, if it were a mersey valley cheese, feta, olives, s/d tomatoes or salami, it would be a different story! (add hommus and avacado to that too!)

Kathy, I couldnt do it. Id be devastated if my sisters or my brother did it. I just want 'intimate' as opposed to 'yeah I spose weve gotta invite them'...

I am stuck in the rut that if you invite one person, then there's 20 more that you have to invite. If you leave 1 person off, then you need to scrap 20 others sort of thing.

And they are all really people that I want there! They are my friends, and I want to be able to share my special day with them and be able to talk about it before and after too. It just seems to be such a hassle. The more people, the more coordination required!