I thought it might be worth a reminder to everyone who posts in this forum, to try to remember to uncheck the enable signature box below the post window before submitting a post, IF your sig contains pics of children, or a ticker.

This is just courtesy and sensitivity to those who find it difficult to be reminded so blatently of what they do not yet have, and are fighting so hard for.

(I just realised I had my sig everywhere, and have edited my posts as a result, I just didn't think, sorry, hence this post to remind others too).



Could we perhaps sticky this post somehow?

Good idea Kell

Thanks

Oh crikey, should have known better!

Sorry guys!

Good idea! Should we aim to remove TTC tickers also - or just pregnancy tickers?

Vetty

I think TTC tickers are fine.

Good idea Kell.

I think TTC are just fine. Avatars are probably not feasible given they change on everything. Pregnancy tickers are fine in the appropriate place, if I want to know how far along somebody is I can look at a post in the pregnancy forum.

I won't be removing my avatar and even if I still did have a picture of Lilly in my signature I wouldn't remove it. Just because I already have a child why should I be singled out if I need to use this forum too, I don't think that's fair girls.

Youre not singled out Alani, it affects my sig too. Sometimes it can be painful to look at pics of beautiful bubs and children in peoples sigs, when you cannot have one yourself. Its a cruel reminder of what you dont have, and it really hurts.

Its one forum, not that hard, and would save a lot of the pain thats already there in huge amounts for a lot of women here. Just a courtesy/sensitivity thing.

Kell, think me to be a bitch or what may for saying no but it is a bit like another forum I go to where people have photos of their stillborn babies as young as 21 weeks in their signatures. That sickens me out but I don't go and ask them to remove it however upsetting it is to me. I will instead use another forum for my assisted conception journey or whatever I have to face because I don't want to feel like I'm treading on anyones toes around this place.
I know TTC is a sensitive subject for many and probably I will offend with what I say so it's better for me not to come back in here me's thinks!

Alani, I dont want you to feel like you could offend. And some of us may see it as a sign of hope as Anita suggested, and some of us, on our bad days especially, will see those sigs and burst into tears thinking "why not me???"

To avoid extra hurt for those of us having a bad day, it'd just be a simple gesture of removing the sigs so that it saves us just a tiny bit of hurt, in a journey that is really hurt filled.

I don't feel that leaving my signiture is a bad thing. I know there are alot of ladies trying to concieve, but people who like to rejoice in their children aren't rubbing it in. My childrens names are in my signiture, to some people that could be rubbing it in like saying "hahaha i have kids you don't". and it's not! there is nothing worse than having a M/C or losing a child... and we will be here for support for everyone.

Do not even consider the fact that we think we are better because we have children. Because it is furthest from the point.

OK I honestly think this is not the place for a debate over something that really isn't a big request. Just humour us, please?

I have no problem with this what-so-ever; this is just one way I can show respect to you girls that you all so much deserve

I don't plan on venturing in here often as I believe it should be a sanctuary for you ladies but I have no problem whatsoever removing my sig etc before posting if I do post.

My very best wishes go to you all.

I think that it is wrong to make this an issue, lets just support each other and as a sign of understanding and respect for others feelings leave tickers and signature photos off this forum, I think that is a completely acceptable request and I support it 100%/

I agree with Debbie, it is wrong to make this an issue - just disable your signatures, its the least respect we can have.

This whole debarkle is not worth fighting over.....come on girls !!

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and people should not have the right to judge ones voice. there is no right or wrong in this matter, it just comes down to respect for others.

I am happy not to display my signature in this section if thats what is requested as I certainly dont want to upset anyone.

We need to support one another, not judge or criticise....this is not a place or time to be fighting against each other.


Now can we move on please......?


Christine

Now .. call me a fruit lop if you so wish.... but is it all signatres???

I'm total baffeled by the fact that people who don't have chrildrens photos/ baby related tickersin thier singatures yet they have turned off their sigs????? (I was so that I had to go check as I thought I had missed something... as in missed the fact that Megan was up the duff as her signature was gone in her post.... ) or it is all tickers???

Because my 'impression' was that it was just in relation to baby/prego tickers and childrens photos (not names??) in the signature parts as this you see when scrolling through the actual post (as it had already been established as it is impossible to do the avatars and also that these aren't quite as 'important' as they are off to one side and not in the post....

Can you all please stop this rubbish....this is why i don't venture into these forums too much and had hope that we smart intelligent women who had been on this journey a long time could find some comfort here...but again it ends up freind attacking friend...

PLEASE STOP ALL THIS RUBBISH NOW!!!

This is so petty.
Honestly how hard is it to remove a signature?
I don't understand what the big deal is?
No wonder we're losing members with this type of attitude.
These girls have enough to think about without having to hear this.
I know if I was having trouble and came across this thread I wouldn't bother returning.
Have a bit of respect.

If you want to debate this fine do so but please take it else where. This was ment to be a santuary to escape all this crap. If this is going to keep up I will not be returning

So how about we count backwards from ten and agree to all delete our posts from this thread as of NOW (I'm pretty sure there's not anyone who can't delete who's posted in this thread)! An email can be sent to Lisa @ I-do by Kell expressing the wishes of the members who will MOST USE this part of the forums (and she can use the CONSTRUCTIVE feedback that has been given to clarfy a few points) and LISA can make a LOCKED and PINNED post expressing those wishes. (Of course that won't happen until she returns now however, I think would be preferable to having all this constant bickering going on and may mean a few tickers and photos slip by in the mean time...)

I'm going to delete my posts anyway.

Just bumping this up there have been quite a few signatures with pregnancy tickers left on lately. Please try and make the effort to remember ladies

I think it's time people were reminded again.

Can I also remind those members who depend on this section for support, I have noticed that members who have since left this section to join the pregnancy section have also got pregnancy tickers showing in past threads here. So they might have been TTC at the time, are now pregnant, and there are pg tickers on display.

Where possible, could everyone disable their sigs please? I have been really conscious of this for a while now and I try to remember to untick the box. I would hate to leave behind a myriad of posts with a new pg ticker in them and be rubbing it into people's faces.

***BUMP***

BUMP!

And maybe some of us could go back and edit sigs out in this actual thread as well........obviously we don't have the software that can do this - once you have had success!

thanks

BUMP!

It would be great if admin or mods actually edited some of the posts - even HERE in this thread!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyone can go back and turn their sigs off themslves if they remember - but your sig is on too

Renee this is a thread about not having pg tickers, baby tickers or having baby/child in your sig.


Quote from the 1st post of this thread!



It's about showing sensitivity throughout the FI, L-TTC area.

My sig does not have children/babies or pg mentioned in it.

Maybe read the entire thread.

It is very common on most web boards for those with children/pg/babies in their sigs or tickers to remove them when posting in areas that involved Long term TTC (12+mths) or Assisted Conception. But very common to still have a sig that explains the attempts you have gone to.

My sig HAS NONE OF THESE IN IT! I do the right thing when I reply in these threads (plus I have never been pg and I do not have a child, so it is impossible for me to be breaking these guidelines).

This is a non moderated forum so the 'moderators' will not come in purely to turn signatures off. Sometimes people forget and can just not notice, its not necessarily about not being aware of the forum they are posting in. I often come in to check on my friends and occasionally post, on a small number of occasions I have forgotten to turn off my signature and it has been really appreciated when somebody has given me a quick reminder via PM.

It isnt always that either.

People need to remember that they may not have a bub etc in their signature now but if doen the track they do and they have enabled sig it will show.

I know i got caught out alot with this.

I used to leave mine on because it never had anything baby related in it and wasnt upsetting.I forgot that when i did change my signature everywhere Id post posted and not turned off my signature was now heartbreaking to alot of people

Ive read the whole thread thanks, But as I have quoted Michelle, you will see why I find it that you too should turn your sig off, I think EVERYONE should have to turn their sig off. While I understand you have nothing in there now, none of us did at some point.

Renee, if you are a regular visitor to the LTTTC section, you will be aware of little~O's situation. I don't think it is unreasonable for her to leave her signature on.

How do i go back and turn 'off' my signatures in old threads?

I agree with Heather, i'm more than happy to remove my signature, but sometimes i need a gentle reminder, esp. if it's on an old thread i don't even remember posting in.

you have to find your post in that thread and edit it....

Bruce, I understand little~O's situation, but none of us knows what will happen in the future. Just my belief, that EVERYONE should turn off their sigs in this part of the forum. I could leave my sig on all the time, as it only contains my wedding photos, but that might change in the future. I would feel pretty shithouse if i had intentionally hurt someone's feelings just because I didnt turn my sig off at the time and they happened to be reading an old thread.

I don't care what happens on other forums, they are not this forum. Each forum is individual, just like people. I think the problem is that when this post was created, there were less features on the boards (I presume), but really, there is no excuse for having a sig left on that can be blamed on the forum. We all make mistakes from time to time, and thats cool, but it doesnt take much to go abck and edit your post to turn your sig off.

I apologise that my comment regarding Little O's signature has caused upset. And for those who have PMed me, yes my signature is on too. And yes, I am very aware as a long term member that whenever one's signature changes, it changes in every post you've ever made. In case it's never been noticed, I haven't had a signature in these forums since about 2006ish, apart from a simple line giving the KK email address for about two to three months of the year. That's not something I can see ever changing.

Since I can never have children, I didn't think it an issue that my signature is left on as it will never change to something that will upset in these forums. Of course I would remove my signature if my situation was different and I wholeheartedly agree that signatures should be removed from topics in this section, should there ever be a possibility of offence down the track. Having read Little O's posts and realising that we're in a very similar boat, I didn't take objection to her signature remaining on also.

Again, my apologies, however I don't see this thread as one that needs debate from me and so I will bow of of public discussion at this point.

Agree with you 100%.

I know not all sigs are appropriate to this sections, so I see it as being easier if everyone turned sigs off, whether it is baby related or not. That way everyone is the same and there will be no future problems.

Or you can do what another member I know of did - trawled through (took 3 days!!) every single LTTTC post she'd made (and there were a lot) disabling her previous sig. before she made a 'significant announcement'.

Personally I reckon I'd just disable it if I thought there was any chance my circumstances might change in the future and my sig. potentially could cause offence. But for those people who have reason to believe this won't be an issue, I am pretty sure, should it become necessary, it would not be an onerous task to remove every previous sig. in this section.

Obviously you weren't though. I WILL NEVER have pg or children in my sig - because we are no longer trying and I will not be having a child - EVER NEVER - there is no possibility of it.

I will not have a opps pg, I will not have a miracle pg. I will not adopt, I will not do PC, I will not be a foster parent. I am and will forever embrace child free living (and actually I am at a quite happy stage with this).

I will however defend the needs of those who need a 'self protective' space.





I leave my sig on because it will never include pg or baby stuff but it might be helpful to those that need information on IVF, egg donation or inter-country adoption.


Bruce

Precisely!

Just looking at some TTC threads now and they are riddled with babies in sigs

Seriously, if it is such a big issue (and I believe it is), perhaps sigs shouldn't be allowed at all, ever