Even though this section of the forum is dead, I thought I may as well start a 2011 thread just to keep things current!

Re-cap of my situation: Been with my man for only 10 months (living together 9!), he is separated but not divorced yet, and even though I know I totally shouldn't, I'm holding my breath a little for our first anniversary.

Anyone else here or is it just me?

Your not alone! I'm here, I've been with my partner for 10 years, living togther for about 5 years or so now, and not holding my breath for anything any time soon!

We're looking at buying a house/flat this year which is a pretty big thing for us and I'm terrified at the thought of all that debt! Thinking of kids in a year or two - so married or not hopefully it'll all happen!

Hi Lizzie! Glad I'm not here by myself. I had to smile though at our difference in situation in terms of length of relationship. 10 years vs. 10 months? Hehehe.

lol! Yes just a little difference in time... some of my friends think I'm mad and should demand the ring, but I'm happy to wait until he does it off his own back. My partner is certainly not one to rush into things!

We got together when we were pretty young (20 and 21) so I guess there was never any rush. Now I'm more interested in the baby part of things!

So... If you get the ring - what kind of wedding do you want to have?

Well I think you've got supreme patience; my longest relationship to date was 2.5 years, and from around one year up until he dumped me I was beside myself with impatience, lol! That was several years ago though. This is now my second longest relationship, so I really can't imagine being with someone as long as you have! But I so want to know what it's like.

I notice we're around the same age though which is cool; I'm 30 in May (and finding the prospect frightening, hehe).

As for my wedding, wow, what a question! I've been thinking about it my while adult life, so as long as it's okay with DP I've already decided upon a lot of little details. I always wanted a big elegant reception with a sit down dinner, but now that I'm older I'm less fussed with spending heaps on a classy venue, and I'm more tempted to find a function hall at a sports club or something and have a simple but tasty buffet. The ceremony I would prefer to have indoors somewhere gorgeous so I don't have to worry about rain/wind/heat/sunburn/flies, but I know a lady with a lovely backyard with a large pergola thing, so if she's open to it that might be an option.

There's heaps heaps more I could tell you, but I'll let you have a go first! Lol.

Believe me to time just goes and before you know it, 10 years have passed!

Yes turning 30 is scary isn't it?! I'm 31 and turning 32 at the end of the year and find that terrifying! Especially as if you had of asked me years ago what I'd be doing at my age, I would have done heaps more than I actually have!

Your wedding sounds lovely! I'm a bit like you and thought about it heaps The longer I've been with my partner the more simple I want it to be! I started off with the idea of a garden wedding and a lovely reception, but now I'd be happy with a registry office and really good dinner with just family and close friends, a wedding back home (in the country) near our parents places or even to elope!

Either way I think it'll be small, I don't want bridesmaids or anything like that either I don't think so just the two of us in the wedding party. Mind you I still want a pretty dress!

We have lots of friends getting married at the moment - 3 weddings in the next 3 months! I think lots of friends and family have given up on the idea that we'll bother to get married at all!

Just wondering if it means anything that my DP has started erasing his browsing history suddenly in the last week or so, when we're already very open about the fact he sometimes watches p*rn when I'm not around, and when last night he mentioned (in context) reading an article about proposals, which funnily enough appears in the top results when you enter into google "valentines marriage proposal"......

Not that I was checking or anything...

It's not going to happen; I know I'm reading into this the same way I until recently read into every phantom pg symptom I felt! But it still makes me go "hmmm".

If it does mean nothing, then I am a little concerned about the browsing history thing. It means he's got something to hide, which is not "us" at all. Unless he's just been looking at something he'd be embarrassed for me to see, which I can understand.

Okay, so V Day was not the day.... just waiting to see if anything happens on our 1 year anniversary, then my 30th a couple of months after that. Or maybe (if it's even going to happen this year) it's just going to be on a random insignificant day, which I'm starting to think will be the case!

Or it's not joint to happen for years and I'm getting wayyyyy ahead of myself.

aahhh bummer!

I don't think you have anything to worry about - just wait and see what happens, I'm sure it'll happen soon anyway. Besides a surprize would be nice ..yes?....maybe he's just trying to keep the details on the low down for now.

It'll totally be worth the wait when it does happen I'm sure!

Don't worry about reading too much into things! I do it all the time too.

Thank you. I do feel silly about it, but you can't really help it when you're terribly impatient to be married.

And I definitely want it to be a surprise... although I think I kind of want to have some idea of how long he's likely to wait (or make me wait, hehe).

I do need to stop thinking about it though.

Hope your doing well, btw. I forgot to post on your ideas for your wedding; sounds great, and even though I'm unlikely to do it myself, I can totally see the appeal of just having a registry office and dinner affair. I've definitely considered it, but I feel that in the long term I may kick myself for not having a more "traditional" wedding, IYKWIM. And of course, despite our simpler tastes, we must still have a fabulous dress. I "chose" my dress years ago, and there is an online company that will make it for only $340, except mine may cost a little more as I want to make a couple of customizations (adding straps, fuller skirt).

Be sure to post here when you do finally get proposed to! I wish there were some more people in here to obsess with..

Well, after many years of hanging around in here or the New Beginnings forum, I'm finally getting to graduate. Woo! FH proposed on Saturday and completely floored me with it, I was not expecting it any time soon. So yay!

Congratulations!!!!

Do tell us the whole story!

Congratulations!!! I'm very happy for you!

Yes please tell us the story! (by the way I'm still in this section, but expectto be so for a while longer! )