I found this forum when I was googling, and I thought I would post as I am in a very hard place right now.
My husband (been together 9 years, married for 3) last night said that he does not love me any more, and wants to end our relationship. I have been crying ever since.
We are both Aussie, but have been living together in Canada for the last 2 years, which is where things started to fall apart. He thinks he has found himself (going out all the time and meeting new people) whereas I hold him back. I am not as outgoing as him. He has one particular friend that he met in a bar one night and goes out on sporting weekends and parties, and I am not asked to attend any of this stuff as I "wouldnt fit in".
Dont get me wrong, we have had loads of fun times here together, but like he says, when we are alone together we get on just fine and have a ball. But since he is now this new social person that is not enough. His new friends seem to be much more important. He doesn't like having a wife to have to inform of his actions (say texting me to say he wont be home for dinner), and who might be upset that he is out once again. I wonder if a factor to this story is that the vast majority of the people involved in his 'new scene' are around our age (28) but single. We met when we were 20, and have been together since then. Perhaps he feels like he missed out on this part of his life?
Anyways, I don't have any close friends over here to discuss this stuff with. We were both planning to head home to Adelaide for Christmas, but the plane does not leave for another 6 days, and we have 2 days in transit. I guess when he returns to Canada next year, I stay in Australia. I had not even thought that I needed to pack up all of my belongings to send home.
I could use some advice from some people who know what I am going through. None of my friends are at the Divorce stage of life, it is all babies and happiness. How can I restart my life and trust a man again?? I still love this guy and thought I would forever. Will I ever get to have children, I dont feel there is enough time for me to meet someone new and know them well enough before I am too old.
I would like nothing more than to fix this and get on with my life as a happily married woman with her dreams for the future. But it is not looking like he is going to change his mind.
Also I am increadibly embarrassed, I have always been such a together person, but this is totally out of my control. How do I tell people this terrible news??
Thankyou for reading my rant, it feels good to put it down in writing.