Ok, hopefully this post will make some kind of sense...just don't mind me if I ramble on too much!
First of all let me say that I love Master D and think he is a brilliant little bubba, he really is a dream baby. I just think we both need some fine tuning
D is really good at bed time and will go off to sleep (with his dummy) most of the time fuss free (unless he is overtired).
He has been getting up around 7am, going back down around 9am for 2.5 hours, then up again for another 1.5-2hrs then back to bed around 12.30 ish for around 1.5hrs then he goes back down around 3pm ish and usually stays there until 5pm. Then we keep him up and do his bedtime routine so he is in bed around 7-7.30pm.
He just can't seem to get past the first sleep cycle though without needing his dummy. He has it in to fall asleep with and then spits it out as soon as he is asleep. But you can guarantee 45 minutes later he will stir/cry until he gets his dummy back in. Then he will go back to sleep.
Of a night, he goes down around 7pm and wakes around 10.30pm for a feed and then another one around 1.30am and then around 4am and then we both get up at 7am ish. He is great during the night, has a quick feed, a burp and then back to sleep (sometimes I will have to pop the dummy back in if he has spat it out).
I rarely rock him to sleep and he does go off to sleep fairly easily himself (as long as he has a dummy).
So my question is, do we need to ditch the dummy so he will learn to self settle (I really dont want to ditch it though) or is there another way around it? We have tried to let him cry it out, but he just gets louder and louder until we are both in tears!
Last question - for his day sleeps, should I put the tellie and light on in his room so that he knows it's day time? Or should I just leave the light on and have no background noise?
Any tips/advice will be great as I really could use some guidance right now. I just feel a bit like a fish out of water - would be so helpful if they came out with a little manual to help you through the tough bits!!