I am getting really sick of being so constantly moody, it is making me really upset and I have no idea what to do to fix it! Catch is...I am only like it to my poor husband and sometimes my sister (who I see quite a lot of too). Even though 6 months ago hubby and I went through a really terrible time, things now are absolutely brilliant. I am the happiest I have been in as long as I can remember, yet I cannot kick my bitchy moods to him! After everything we went through with our relationship last year, I can honestly say that I am not holding any grudges, and I am now speaking up and saying when I am not happy with something (this is something I had never done in our 11 years together until November).

He talks to me about my bitchiness a bit, and we try to think of ways to help me, I do less work, more sleep, more exercise, better eating, he does LOTS around the house now to lighten my load, we are doing so much as a family..but I cant kick this.

I have been to the doctor and done the test for Depression but he said all good. I have had tests for thyroid problems, but nothing.

I wish I was like this just once a month, but I have many more moody/bitchy days then I do nice days now! I am great to my son and my friends..but poor hubby cops the lot! He could literally make me brekkie in bed, do the dishes (shine my sink! - hes just learnt this one!), do endless for me, get us out of the house and doing stuff but I will just say things nastily for some reason.

Does anyone else do this? Any advice whatsoever would be absolutely appreciated-plus I have a friend who is doing the same thing to her boyfriend and its really upsetting her too (he is a new boyfriend who I have been friends with for a while). I hate this!!

TIA

I am a bit like you. Can't shake the moodiness I think mine is hormonal as I have been on an off the pill for the last 12 months!! I hope you find a solution soon!!!!

I have found Evening Primrose Oil can really even out my moods. I have no idea why it works but it did make a difference. Could be worth a try?

I have to say I am the same at times and evening primrose oil really helped me too

Thanks for the replies girls, I might have to give it a go I think

It is a real pain because it really gets me down, especially as hubby is trying so hard now but he feels like he cant do anything right to make me happy I will try anything!

Would love to hear of other peoples thoughts too

sounds like it could be a hormone imbalance?
If so, evening primrose oil will definately help.
Did the Dr test you for iron and B12? that can have an effect on mood too.

All the best, I hope you can get some relief!

I've been out of sorts lately too

I thought hormone imbalance too, I mentioned that to the dr (my mum has it) and he tested for all of that (he said he did anyway) My iron levels have always been lower, but he said they are ok now.

So clueless!

This is probably a bit left field but:

Are you angry at yourself about something???? The reason I ask is you say you get pent up feelings of moodiness around your hubby and sister (as in they cop the brunt of it). From my perspective people close to you will often be affected by moodiness because you are much more comfortable around them and comfortable to let your moods go when your around them. (Hope you understand that as I can't work out how to put it any better).

Often those close to us are like mirrors. As in they will reflect certain things about ourselves to us. So your hubby and sister are triggering a moody emotion within you. You need to look within to work out why this emotion is being triggered and it will not be them. The trick may be to see what it is about them that is annoying you/making your moody and you may find that that thing within them that you dont like, is mostly the same thing that you dont like within you.

I'm also wondering if you have some issues that you possibly haven't forgivin yourself for.

Like I said, a bit left field, but may help????

Thankyou MrsSassy, your post makes complete sense to me-I just cant work it out for the life of me-I definitely think it is because I am the most comfortable around them. We could be at my inlaws and I will be happy as larry and often the second i get in the car I am just down in the dumps and moody.

I know for sure that if I am tired/hungry/exhausted then I am feral! But I can be like this when I am not tired and feel great.

I have thought that maybe a counsellor might be worth a shot. Especially considering how hard my husband has tried to make us work, I want to put in 100% too iykwim? It is a really awful feeling
Maybe a counsellor will help me to think about what I could be angry at...

I have been on evening promrose oil and I swear by it. So does my FH who has ssen a real improvement during the whole month, not just at that time. Give it a go!

I was going to suggest anger and perhaps seeing a counsellor, they will delve a bit and try and get to the bottom of it with you.

My bitchiness towards my husband (and him alone) was killing us until a few months ago. He was no angel in the situation (and I know you've had issues with your DH as well) but I was far worse to him than he was to me - and now I can see that. You may still be holding on to some resentment towards your DH - sometimes there isn't a switch that we can magically flick to make ourselves get over things.

We used to fight daily, call each other awful names and be generally hideous, we have not had a serious argument in over 3 months.

I am now on a low dose AD so that has helped but so too has the counselling and talking heaps more with DH. Luckily for you depression is not an issue which is great, it means you can work through things without the aid of medication and perhaps come out a happier, more balanced person at the end.

I am sure you can get a certain amount of bulk billed sessions through medicare

Thanks girls

I will check out the primrose today when I am at the shops, worth a shot!

Monica- I am glad you guys are getting much better, I too read about your problems and its not easy. I still have free sessions I can use from when we were seeing a counsellor last year, so I might start again - we have only been together and I havent been on my own so it might be good. I still have a lot of issues with my childhood, so i think it might help

It is so easy to say 'oh im working too much' 'oh im tired' 'im bored' etc etc, but at the end of the day, I have been like this for 11 years and things could be perfectly fine and i will still be a bitch. I dont want to do it anymore!

I just wanted to pop back in and say thanks to the ladies who helped me out. I got some Evening Primrose Oil Capsules yesterday. I was feeling really crap yesterday and just 'blergh', and was in a foul mood (hubby wasnt home). I took some of the capsules, and oddly I started to feel better. Hmm..I thought this was too good to be true. Hubby came home from work and I didnt tell him about them as I wanted to see if he noticed a difference. A few hours later he mentioned my unusual chirpiness and just that I was really happy and chatty. He saw the capsules and was amazed! He woke me up at 5am this morning and usually I would be such a grump and today I was happy as larry!

Today I had a really long, hectic day and I took them 3 times. I was a little tired in the afternoon, but when he got home I was chatting and wouldnt shut up. Usually on a busy day like today you cant be in the house with me, but not today!

I am deliberately not trying hard to be happy, to see if it is the primrose, and I am really really shocked at the difference already. Needless to say, hubby is absolutely over the moon and he cannot believe he has a really happy wife who wants to talk to him nicely As sad as that sounds, it is the truth and I feel bad I wasnt like this before these capsules, but whatever works

Thanks so much girls xo