This is a hard post for me to write. I'll try to keep it short.
I have mentioned on here a few times before about our grumpy old fat cat who pees in the food and water, has a lot of anxiety problems and gets bashed up by our other two cats. She doesn't seem happy. She's not friendly, and she's scared of us. It was a good couple of years before we could even pat her or that she would stay in the same room as us. We got her from the RSPCA nearly four years ago, she is nearly 9 years old now.
So she has never really fit in with us or seemed happy. The first year or two she was peeing on everything, then only plastic bags and green bags, and now only in their water bowls and occasionally I come across a pee soaked somethingorother, usually something I chucked on the floor in the spare room and forgot about. We have ruled out UTIs and other medical problems apart from anxiety. We have had a Feliway dispenser before which worked amazingly well, I just have to get another refill which is why we don't have one at the moment. We are not going to try anti-anxiety medication because the battle to actually get anything into her is not worth it, it just makes her more stressed and agressive.
Anyway, the point of my post is that my friend has recently opened a cat shelter in my town. Here's the link if you are interested. http://www.charliessanctuary.com I am seriously considering putting her up for adoption. I just don't know what to do. It breaks my heart to even think of it but surely if she is still miserable after 4 years, she's not going to get any better? I really think she needs to be the only cat in a house with a single person or couple, no kids. She loves lying under the heater curled up in a ball but she can't do that much here because there's so much activity that she jumps a mile any time anyone (human or animal) enters the room. She is so skittish, it's like she can never relax. And I have seen our other 2 cats swipe out at her and she regularly has scratches on her face and ears. I just want her to be able to live out her days in peace and comfort.
Chances are we wouldn't find a suitable owner for her anyway in which case she would definitely stay here with us (I'm not giving her to just anyone) but I just don't know if I should put her up on the site and take the chance someone will want her. The shelter does have a 2 week trial period policy and they do follow up calls and stuff so I'm not worried about her new owners being wrong for her, if there were any problems I'd take her back in a second. I just strongly believe that you change your lifestyle to suit your pets, and not the other way around, but this is essentially what we'd be doing. Adding to the guilt is the feeling like she's just too much work and it'll be easier on me to give her away, there'd be less pee to clean up, and also we'd be able to foster some cats if she was gone which we can't do now with her here, that would just make things worse for her. So it's like I'm considering this to suit myself, not her. That makes me feel awful!
So what would you do? Put her up on the site or persevere and keep her with you?
Sorry, ended up being really long again, I seem incapable of writing a short post!