Well, hubby and I had a chat this morning about our upcoming appointments. Seems we may have a difference of opinion....I was kind of assuming he would come to them all but sounds like he is thinking he might just come to some so he isn't missing as much work.

This is our first pregnancy, so I just wanted to ask you all if your partners came to all appointments etc. I know everyone will be different but not quite sure how I feel about it at the moment so I am very interested to hear what others do.

Thanks in advance!

This is our first pregnancy too. So far, my hubby has come to every appointment/scan - I am assuming that he plans to continue to do so.
I know that some of my friend's husbands started out going to every appointment but then tapered off about midway and then only attended scans etc. I think it is different for everyone

ETA: Both hubby and I work across the road from our hospital/obs rooms so I think the convenience factor has played a big role in him coming to every appointment so far.

Hubby came to every single appointment except one (when he was called in to cover for someone who was sick). We were fortunate in being able to schedule the vast majority of our appointments for a Monday (which hubby has off).

Having hubby there wasn't just great for moral support and making him feel more part of it. I also found having him there very useful. He remembered aspects of things we were told which I'd forgotten. He also remembered to ask questions I had forgotten about. I also found it really handy for him to hear things first hand from our Obs (saved me repeating it, and also he knew then that if I said we're going to do / expect / should / shouldn't do X then that was from the Obs, not from me IYKWIM)?

Next time around, if there is one, hubby will also hopefully be attending the majority of appointments, too.

DH has come to every ultrasound (I've had 4, and 1 non-diagnostic 3D ultrasound), and has been to all but 2 antenatal appointments.

My only request was that he be at all ultrasounds, but he's liked coming to the appointments as well, he loves hearing the heartbeat, hearing the midwife say that everything's fine, and I think the nosey one loves hearing how much I weigh

Honestly, most of the appointments have been quite quick and routine, and while it's nice to have DH there, it hasn't disturbed me when he's simply had to work. Especially as I'm really only in with the midwife for a grand total of about 5 minutes!

My hubby comes to every hospital appointment with me. But he works for himself so it's easy for him to get away. In regards to my IP Midwife appointments I usually go there myself.

This is our first child too.
As it turns out, DH has come to all appointments. I really wanted him to come to the first so he could also meet and decide whether we both liked the obs. After that I was happy he came but not all that stressed if he didn't. DH was going to stop coming to visits as we are now on weekly visits, but due to some potential complications DH decided he wanted to come. Honestly I have loved having him at each appointment, he has taken notes and loved hearing whats going on, not to mention been a great support.
I know that its a big sacrifice in time for DH (he has to leave an important client meeting every time) but I think he is also happy he comes along - especially later in the pregnancy. In the early months the appointments are only every 4-6weeks so its not really a huge investment of time. I picked an obs close to work so that time away from work could be minimised and also ring up before each appointment to check that she is running on time and hasn't been called out to the hospital.

Thats my thoughts, good luck in negiotiating an agreement with your DH.

This is our first pg too.

While hubby would love to come to every ante natal appt, he just can't. Being a Primary school teacher he can't just take the morning off etc, it's too much to get in a relief teacher etc. Scans are different, he has come to every single one which is great, and because we can schedule them in for after school times.
Being in the country, my appts are scheduled for Tuesday mornings, as that's the only time my doctor does her ante natal clinics. When we see the obs at 20 weeks, hubby wants to come to at least one appt, just to meet him etc, but probably won't come to any others unless they are on the school holidays.

My husband came to every ultrasound, but not every appointment during my pregnancies

My husband has been to every Ultra Sound(he wouldn't miss them for anything). He tries to come to every appointment. He missed one but he had an important meeting he had to be at. He really enjoys it when he gets to hear our little mans heart beat. We also see the midwife before our Ob's appointments and she thinks it is good if your partner can attend a couple of appointments so if he has any questions to ask he can. I must say I am glad hubby has come to most of them because there have been a few things I have forgot and he remembers them for me.

Same here - this is our 1st pregnancy though, After raech apointment I immediately call mum and DH to relay the appointment so I don't forget anything.

My Husband has come to every appt and scan and wouldnt even consider missing one! But this is just us.

I love him coming but sometimes when I go to the middies, I feel bad for him having to take time off work all the time as they are pretty boring, and only last a few minutes, however we get to hear the heart beat and it makes it all worth while!



each to their own.

I never went into my pregnancy expecting my DH to come. I let him make his own choice re appts, however I would have been extremely hurt and disappointed attending the scans on my own.

Matt came to all scans and I think he prob came to half of the Ob appointments. Because we worked in the same suburb it was easy for us to drive there together. When I started mat leave he didnt bother driving all the way home for them.

My hubby has intentions to come to everything and he is happy to take time off as it makes him closer to the baby.

This is our first pregnancy. Our doctor is inconveniently located and appointments are always in our working hours, consequently I attend all appointments on my own except the biggies (ie. 12 & 18 week ultrasound, first appointment etc). I imagine DH will attend the 34 week ultrasound and possibly the very later stage appointments where I assume we will really be talking turkey! I am happy with that because the appointments I attend on my own are quick and routine and really don't require DH.

the girls - most appts and u/s until i went into PTL at 31+3 then he was home from work the last 6w of my pg (he was lucky to be able to work from home) - he came to the first GD appt and when i went on insulin so he knew 'just in case' otherwise it was me at the hospital and i think from memory he missed a couple of u/s.

molly - pretty well me - we had the girls to consider and it was a PITA to take them to u/s (they came to a couple) cause we would be focused on them and not so much what was going on - then i scheduled my appts for the morning so i knew he was home (most of the time) to watch them (so i didn't have to take 2 toddlers to the hospital).

didn't really phase me tbh - i have all their u/s taped anyway so he didn't miss out on anything persay and well even with the girls most of my appts were the usual 5-10mins tops, i spent more time driving too and from hospital than i did in the clinic sometimes as lovely as it is to have them there it's simply not feasible with work.

This is also our first

Hubby has come with me to the Ultrasounds, he is worried that he might miss out on finding out what the sex is (I don't want to know so if he is not there he might miss out)

He has come to the Obs appointment, but we have only had one of them so far, the next one is on Monday and he is coming to that one too.

He said once they become routine i.e. just peeing in cups or giving blood he won't come to them, but if it is finding out new information like the results from the CF and Downs tests he wants to come.

Also makes him feel more involved in the whole process too.

With Charlotte, hubby came to the ultrasounds, and the first OB appointment... With this second pregnancy, he's come to the ultrasounds, but hasn't been to any of my appointments, or even met the doc yet (a different one from my first OB) - he'll probably meet him in the delivery room

I wasn't expecting my husband to come to any appointments other than the scans and the first obs appointment. So far he has only missed one appointment with the obs! We get a scan each time and it has really helped him bond with the baby.

We both have pretty flexible jobs and I'm really glad he has been able to come. My final four appointments have been scheduled smack-bang in the middle of the day so I doubt he will be able to come to those, but he may be able to work from home or something.

My husband has been to every scan and to about half the OBs appointments. I think as we get closer to the end, he'll start coming more as we start to think more about the birth itself.

DH has only been to one Dr's appt but has been to all the U/S apart from one.

DH works long hours and it can be difficult for him to get away.

I have no problems with DH not going to Dr's appt with me as they really on last 10 mins at the most and I can sometimes be waiting a 1hr for the Dr when he's running late.

BF has been to all the biggies, First Ob appointment, 13wk scan, 20wk scan, plus about 2 routine obs visits. The rest I just go to by myself. I'm usually only there 10 minutes so it's not worth his while taking time off work- although my Ob's does a quick scan each visit so I get to see the baby more than BF which he hates
Now that I'm about to start weekly appointments he will try and come, only because I start to tune out when my Obs starts talking labour and pain

Oh, obviously he also came to antenatal classes, and listened to what was going on, unlike one of the husbands in our class who slept each week

This is our first & DH has come to every ultrasound (i've had 4) and half of the antenatal appointments..the first one was just the midwife and myself no partners so it was silly for him to take time off work to sit in the waiting room but he went to the next 2 and missed the last one due to work, he insists he is coming to the next one at the end of the month

It really just depends on if he can get the time off, afternoon appointments usually he can come to but morning ones are a bit hard. He gets more upset about missing them then i do, when i have my appointments i also have ones on the same day for diabetes with the educator or specialist so the whole process with the hospital running late can take 3 hours & i'd rather him save the time in lieu/annual leave for when bub is actually here but it is nice when he can come

Yes my partner does and will probably continue to throughout the whole pregnancy. Its really important to him and I think its nice because he feels more involved in everything.

Hubby has come to all my ultrasounds and will for my next one (so 4 all up) but, not to the Obs appts. They only last about 5 minutes so it doesn't seem worth it to make him drive all the way into the city, he offers though

What a sweety We always made scan appointments for saturdays so he could come. He's missed a few obs appts but will come if he can. Its nice that he knows my obs, she calls him Mr. Laura

Hubby comes to all that he can.

Unfortunately he missed our 12 week scan because he was in a meeting with a Client.

We both can't wait for our 20 weeks scan

Hubby has been to two out of three scans and to one midwife appointment.

He was there for the first scan at 14 weeks and for the big one at 20 weeks. I went to another at 15 weeks that we had taped so he watched it at home.

I'm not phased at all about him being there. He's a teacher so it's not so easy to get the time off sometimes. Also, it's better to save up carer's leave for after bubs arrives!

We were doing fertility stuff for ages before bubs arrived and hubby was at every appointment. Now I can share the love! I take my mum or my sister or just head off alone...doesn't phase me as it only takes 10 mins with the midwives and they are nice to chat with so no pressure.

Hubby has been to all scans and to most appointments

This is also our first and hubby has been to all the scans but has only been to one obs appointment which was the labour talk one. Realistically our obs rooms are quite out the way for us and they had limited times available, usually in the middle of the day so it was tricky enough for me to get time off let alone him. I also didn't really think it was worth it considering all my apppointments up till a few weeks ago were literally 5 minutes long - quick measurement, check of BP and heartbeat check and I was on my way.

He did offer to come to others but I didn't really see the point. He is coming to the next two though as we will be discussing induction etc.

Hell yeah! But I dont think I'll drag him along to very much this time around - Ultrasounds and thats it.

In all 3 pregnancies I think I can tally on 1 hand how many appointments and scans he has been to. He drives for work and unfortunately it was never easy for him to make it and it was more important (for us) for him to go to work for the money as if he took time off he didnt get paid. The scans he did come to he loved though.

That being said I always had either my mum or sister with me at appointments.

Hubby came to every ultrasound (and there were 7 as we had a single umbilical artery) but only came to half of the midwives appointments, even though they were on Sunday's. Hubby works every second weekend and it just didnt seem right that he miss work for the 10min midwives appt. and to be honest, I didnt mind. He would have come if he could, and since our little Princess was born he has been around for all the midwives visits and at the hospital he had the midwives teach him how to fold the blanket to cover the baby and how to bath the baby.

I think hubby came to around 4 Obs appointments with me, 1st was at the Obs request, 2nd was for a scare, next was a random one I dragged him to & he came to the final one because we were so excited. Mostly I went alone though.
He came to all the Ultrasound appointments, but not the Obs Ultrasounds when he just brings out the mini machine in his office.
At the Obs waiting room I would say 70% of the women are by themselves.