I just need to rant somewhere where H2B won't hear about it and won't get annoyed with me.
What would you do?
We are having a destination wedding, everyone was informed and invited at the very start of the year. So we booked all the accommodation for everyone. After everyone RSVPed we heard of some people who had intended coming, were having money problems. So we rang everyone to ask if they were certain they could afford it, because we would prefer they pull out in march than in july when the money for the accommodation was due. So we had to cancel some of the rooms in march.
We sent reminded SMS to everyone who still hasn't paid for their accommodation 2 weeks ago because the money to due at the travel agents on 20 july. We still haven't got money from some guests and it is due at the travel agents on monday week, so we thought we'd better start ringing people to remind them.
Last night H2B rang his cousin, who is his best mate and also his best man. When H2B was first talking to him, he said that they were definitely coming. The phone dropped out and the second time he talked to him, best man asked if it was ok if only he came to the wedding because they couldn't get a babysitter.
Now starts my rant ...
1. I can't believe best man would go away without his partner, as neither of them have been on a plane or to queensland before. That's selfish! Would you go away and leave your partner with your 4 kids?
2. Best man's partner is also a close friend of mine, and if we were having official roles (best man and MOH are only signing the register, not standing up beside us etc.), she was going to be my bridesmaid. If you were going to be someone's bridesmaid, would you miss their wedding?
3. They've had over six months to organise a babysitter, and it wouldn't be that hard for them to get a babysitter. It's just an excuse!
4. They've had over 6 months to save for this trip and they can't afford it! Best man was telling H2B last night that they just got their kids new bikes and he was drinking rum cans (which cost heaps now). So where are their priorities?
So what do we do?
I told H2B this morning that I don't think I would feel comfortable if best man went without his partner. I know it's his best man but she would've been my bridesmaid and I wouldn't be able to look at him without thinking how selfish he was.
We really want them there but does it kinda sound like they don't care if they are there or not, to you?
So we will be stuck paying for their accommodation.
Do we tell them that if they really want to go, then get as much money to us as possible by 20 july and pay for the rest when he gets his tax?
Do we tell them that if they both can't go then don't bother either going? It's a big deal to us and something that we are prepared to have no more contact with them over.
Don't know what to do. Such a frustrating situation.