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Oh hun, you poor thing. It's never easy finding out your ex has a new girlfriend, not matter how much (or how little) time has passed.

The unfortunate thing is the only thing that's going to make it feel better is time. I know how cliche that sounds, but it's true. You will get past it and one day, you won't even care. I know that doesn't help you now though.

It's hard when you have mutual friends. It's a horrible feeling thinking that you're missing out on all those fun times and parties and whatever. But you're not missing out. You've been there and done that. It's time for new friends and new parties and dinners.

Just keep thinking about all his bad points. All the times he made you cry or made you angry or did stuff that totally grossed you out or infuriated you. She now has to put up with all of that.

That's what got me through my ex getting a new gf.

(((((BIG HUGS)))))

I agree totally with Ali !

When I found out my ex had got a new girlfriend, I was exactly the same - I felt like I had to deal with this all over again! It was bloodly awful! So I know what you going through. And I too had mutual friends, but as Ali said - over time it will get better, and you will start to see those mutual friends, that's of course if you want to.

You just gotta keep yourself busy, spend time with your girlfriend - they will totally make you feel better.

I read alot - tried to escape my life and get into someone else, it may not be the best thing to hide, but for me it really worked.

One day you will wake up and it will all OK, I promise you.

Hugs Jess

Oh Shell, im sad your feeling like this.
It must be hard.
All i can think is, shes got your reject, and your better than them both.

I bet she has a penis.

(tell me to buggar off if im outta line!)

Oh misshelly I can sooooo relate to this, my ex brought his new girlfriend to our nephews birthday party on the weekend. And I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach.

The important thing is (like the girls said) to remember WHY he's your ex. It's so easy when you see someone you have devoted so much time, energy, love and emotion to being with someone else to see them as all shiny and new again. But like Ali said keep running all the icko and crap stuff he used to do through your head (my never fail is the continuous picking of boogers which all had to be closely inspected before being flicked away - well that and the two mistresses he had ). As for the "great" times they'll be having with your friends, if these people are truly your friends it wont matter if she's the greatest thing since sliced bread, you'll always be important to them and loved by them and she + he are just going to have to suck it up and deal. Or it's time to move from that phase and (again copying Ali ) find the next phase of great friends.

BIG HUG.

((HUGS))

I know how you feel.

I was with a bloke for 4 or 5 years, we broke up, then got back together again for another 6 months or so before breaking up again. I had suspected a few times that he'd cheated on me, but no proof. The last time we broke up, he rang me 2 days later to tell me that he'd been out for dinner with someone, but it just wasn't the same not having me sit across the table. I mean, WHAT THE?! TWO DAYS?!!!!!

Anyway, they were engaged within 3 months, and the whole time he denied that he was seeing her when we were still together. Stupid man forgets that I am also very good friends with his housemate, who told me everything.

But it was a very hard pill to swallow and there were times after both breakups that I did not cope very well at all - some of the scariest and worst moments of my life.

But the revolving door keeps moving, and I've since met and married my beautiful husband and we're looking forward to many many years together. And it's true - you do tend to meet someone when you're not looking and not expecting to.

Hope you're feeling better about it soon.

((((HUGS))))

I'm glad you're feeling a bit better about it.
That is nice that he's not bringing her to your mutual event.

But I agree with Bangas... Massive wang