i hate imagining all those people seeing me in a WHITE dress looking at me and judging me and calling me fat thinking i look horrible. ever since the engagement i just gain weight because im depressed. im not scared of the marriage not so scared of any of it other than this.. people keep telling me to lose weight whenever they see me. i try my dress on and just think yuck.. i havent weighed in over a year im just a size 14-16 i know its not alot but people will judge me.. i always dreamed of beeing the most beautiful woman on my wedding day. this is the whole reason i didnt want to get married so soon i wanted to wait until i was thin but thats never going to happen..
4 months to go and i have new stretch marks..

just posting in here because you girls give me hope and make me proud of who i am and how i look just by seeing your pics.
p.s h2b couldnt care less what i look like!

I am your size and think I looked gorgeous on my wedding day!!! Being a bride does wonders to you there are no Brides that are ever spoken about badly on their wedding day! I think you will look gorgeous

I was the same size when I got married and I think I looked pretty damn good on my wedding day too. And to be honest I have never seen a bride who didn't look radiant whether they were a size 6 or a size 26.

One thing to remember is that all your loved ones will be there to celebrate your wedding, not to judge you. You WILL look gorgeous and you WILL have the most amazing day of your life.

Hugs to you,
Trippy

The only person you have to be the most beautiful woman in the world for is your husband, and you already are, or he wouldn't be marrying you. The people at your wedding are your friends, they won't be judging you

Seriously, there is nothing wrong with being a size 14

Oh sweetie, you will be so beautiful on your wedding day no matter what size you are! And if you are getting yourself so worked up about your weight, no wonder you are struggling with it. Just remember that the wedding is only one day, its about being a happy, healthy you and marrying the man you love, not about a number. Besides, I hate to point out the obvious but umm size 14 - 16 is just the 'average' Australian woman. I would like to know who can be so nasty to say to you that you should lose weight?! No wonder women have unrealistic weight expectations, with people like that around!

Anyway, big hugs - please stop stressing, I'm sure you are stunning in your beautiful dress!

Lana

I know exactly how you feel, and to be honest not being in control of the issue was more stressful than the weight itself for me. In the end I decided to join Weight Watchers and do something about it.

I've only lost a small amount (compared to what I need to lose to be at my goal weight, which is what my ticker shows), but I already feel like the clouds have lifted a bit just because I feel in control of the situation.

Also I had my first dress fitting tonight and just seeing me in a sewn up bit of calico changed my whole outlook on the situation. I felt special and like a bride and couldn't have cared less about my weight. Hopefully you'll put your dress on and feel the same way.

Lastly, don't listen to other people. They don't live your life, or have your body. Only you know what's going on with you. If you're unhappy then you need to change the situation for you, not because someone else tells you to loose weight.

Two little things to leave you with. 1) You're H2B loves you as you are, and that's all that matters really. 2) If anyone comments on your weight come back at them with this saying (my Dad used to use this one on a particularly nasty woman he worked with): "I may be fat, but you're ugly, and I can diet!"

Chin up hun!

heh i knew you would make me feel better!
it was my mother who kept nagging about my weight and an aunt i no longer answer the phone to! i would love to think that there are friends at my wedding who dont judge me but i dont have any friends. the wedding is all about relatives i dont like people i never met and my parents friends.
i dont mind of course because i wanted a big wedding. we are inviting over 1500! and h2b said if ANYONE says anything about my weight at the wedding he will punch them! tee hee..
i already feel better but keep the lovely answers coming.

I know, I just read that twice, 1500 ???????????? How friggin big is your venue ?

But just reinforcing what the other girls said, you will look & feel beautiful on your wedding day I guarentee it. If people are at a wedding to judge what the bride looks like then they don't deserve to be there & aren't worth your thoughts.

Hey sweets, Im a size 14-16 and I didnt even want to go dress shopping and was so made at myself for not losing weight etc.

But now, with two weeks to go, I couldnt care less. My dress is beautiful, I feel wonderful and my HTB loves me just the way I am

You WILL look beautiful on your wedding day - I promise. And honestly curves looks amazing in wedding dresses?

So how about we distract you - tell us all about your amazing dress and 1500 (!!) guests

All you girls are lovely and agree very much soo. My mother gives me the impression sometimes that she thinks I should lose weight and although sometimes I feel so too. I'm a size 14 and I have a reasonably lovely curvy figure and hubby loves it.

I felt absolutely radiant in my dress on my day and I know you will too.

tee hee! it doesnt mean that they will all come! these people are invited to the church, the shaking hands reception and a stand up buffet. at the church its usually just relatives who come and the reception is in a hotel so it does fit them all. and for the sit down dinner there will be up to 250 again in the hotel but a different area. and the church is 5 minutes from the hotel and 5 minutes from my house!

I totally agree with Bats. I used to freak out and think OMG I'm going to look so fat but now 3 weeks out I couldn't care less. I'm a 14-16 too and I think I look mighty fine in my dress

You will look gorgeous on your wedding day and no-one can take that away from you

I know how you feel. I have a hate hate love hate relationship with my weight and self image. I am a size 12 mostly but can go up to 14 on my off days. I don't think thats fat, fat is a state of mind. Beauty is a reality and your beautiful, all women are. Size is just another one of those **** four letter words