Aug 15 2007, 04:15 PM
I was just wondering if any one has had the experience of a very lopsided guest list... We have gotten a lot of our RSVPs back and it looks like I will have about twice as many family guests coming to the wedding and reception as my HTB, there was a similar amount invited on both sides.
HTB says he doesn't care how many there is coming but...
I'm just worried that on the day HTB will feel like its my day and my party with my family because so many of his can't make it. I want him to feel supported as well.
Theres nothing I can do about it, but should it be a concern? Also not sure whether to bring the subject up with him or just see what happens 'on the day'... Would love to hear some feed back
Aug 15 2007, 06:32 PM
oh honey I wouldn't worry at all
my FH family is small and they don't have a lot of guests coming. Our wedding will be 90% bride's side because my parents have invited just about everyone they know!
as long as you work the room and pay attention to everyone (difficult I know!) then you won't even think about who is on who's side - just enjoy it
Aug 15 2007, 06:51 PM
sweets, i dont think that you need to worry about it, all will work out in the end
Aug 15 2007, 08:15 PM
Don't stress... My h2b has a larger family than mine (he is a smith) so his will ALWAYS big larger than mine.
Aug 15 2007, 08:15 PM
Thanks for the reassurance girls. I really appreciate it.
Aug 16 2007, 08:37 AM
Ours in majory uneven, I only have 6 family members coming including my parents, and FH has about 20 something! My family all live over seas and I don't know a lot of them so only a couple are coming. It has never bothered me as we are having a small wedding anyway.
Aug 16 2007, 10:26 AM
Ours is uneven as well. I have a large family, H2B doesn't. However he has invited some more friends than I have, so it will probably even out.
I'm not sure that numbers could ever be completely even as everyone's family situations are so different these days.
Aug 16 2007, 11:36 AM
Ours was lopsided, hubby has a huge family & invited them & a couple of friends, I have a tiny family (couldn't even fill one table), so I topped up on friends & still only had 1/3 - 1/4 of the guests...it didn't bother either of us in the slightest...
Aug 16 2007, 12:16 PM
Ours is very lopsided, H2B's family fit on one table even then I dont think all of them will come cause his parents hate me but H2B has a lot of friends that we are inviting, I have a huge family and not so many friends, so it kind of works out even
* Kylie *
Aug 16 2007, 01:22 PM
We are also going to have the same problem, because all of Lee's family is in NZ. I honestly think we'll be lucky if his immediate family make it (a whole other issue I'm not happy about!).
I worry about it as well, but I don't know what to do about it. We are going to try and have a second reception over there that they can come to, but it's not all fixable.
I think just try and involve him in things so he feels it's his day to. If it was my H2B I'd bring it up with him and see if he had any feelings on it, a.) so he knows I care and I recognise it may be an issue and b.) to see if maybe we can come up with a solution.
Aug 16 2007, 01:28 PM
Mine was uneven - DH had 1 table for his family, and I had 3.
Aug 16 2007, 01:54 PM
Our wedding was lopsided in favour of my friends/family. Hubby had only 1 table of his family and friends. It consisted of his parents, our neice and one of his mums' best friends and our best man's fiance. I actually put one of my best friends at that table!! The rest of the tables were my family and friends.
Aug 17 2007, 07:56 AM
Ours was lopsided as well, hubby had 2 tables, i had 3. I don't think anyone is going to notice, nor should they care!
Aug 17 2007, 08:24 AM
I'm glad this is more common than I thought! We are going to be 1 table (his side) to 3 (my side) with another table of our friends (we pretty much have the same friends). He has been involved through the whole planning process so I shouldn't be worried that he will feel like he's just along for the ride. I also talked to him the other night and his attitude to it all is "great, less people to pay for" - not sure thats entirely the right attitude but at least he doesn't mind if their there or not! His immediate family and friends are more important to him anyway than the aunties and uncles that aren't coming.
Aug 17 2007, 11:44 AM
I wouldn't worry. Ours will be lopsided in many ways. H2B has more family, but I have more family friends etc.
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