Guest Transport - whose responsibility?, The guest or the hosts? Options

[nephthys]

I'm just wondering whose responsibility it should be to ferry the guests around? I've had a cousin ask for me to arrange transport for her from the airport and around on the wedding day. I have always arranged my own transport when I've been invited to weddings and presumed that is the norm. So who should arrange the transport? Note, you do need a car to get to the venues, but her parents are coming so I'm surprised she's asked me...

[toffee]

is she coming from far away? doesn't know her way around??

I think its her responsibility ultimately but if you can at least recommend a car hire company for her or tell her roughly how much a taxi would cost?

If her parents are going to be there, perhaps you could ask her if she could talk it over with them & gently/nicely? let her know your too busy working out the other details for your day that this isn't something your going to be able to do for her on the day???

[Chr!st!ne]

i think you will have enough to worry about in the lead up to your wedding, let her hire a car or get a lift off someone who is also attending your wedding that she knows.

[Bec75]

I have never really heard of the bride organising tranpsort for the guests. Its not that hard to ring a hire company.

[Vik]

If your wedding plans are such that travel arrangements for your guests on your wedding day are very complicated or the locations are remote, some couples elect to arrange busses to transport guests from location to location.

In terms of pick ups from airport and standard ferrying around on the wedding day, it is the guests responsibility.

I would suggest giving her the names of some hire care companies and taxi companies so that she can make her own arrangements. You might assist her futher by giving her specific directions to each of the different locations to ensure that she does not get lost.

Sounds like a guestzilla to me!

[Puggie]

LOL @ Vik - have not heard the term guestzilla before, but I like it

I agree with Vik's suggestions.

[Ishi]

absolutly not your responsibility. If she has no other family in the area then i totally agree with Vik
she cannot expect you to be running around after her during this time.

[Vik]

LOL @ Vik - have not heard the term guestzilla before, but I like it

I agree with Vik's suggestions.

As I was reading the original post I was thinking - wow, this guest sounds like a bridezilla - but she is a guest!

So I just made up the word guestzilla. I like it!

[nephthys]

Hah! Guestzilla I like it, describes her perfectly.

Unfortunately a cab isn't an option because the ceremony is in the country, 45 minutes drive from our local town. It would cost a fortune. But she's my cousin and knows the family so I can't see why she can't make her own enquiries or ride with her parents, whom I'm sure she'll be staying with... Perhaps I could give her a lift in the bridal vehicle.

[psg]

this is an issue we're dealing with as well, but we are concentrating on getting overseas/interstate (non-family) people from the venue at the end of the night...a cousin could surely arrange her own transport with her own side of the family??

do what you feel is right, but like everyone else has suggested, i think this is her thing to organise not yours!

good luck!

xx PS

[bec1979]

I don't know if this will help. But my wedding is being held 45mins away from where we live and Im just sending guests information about the hotel I will be staying at the night before to save the hassel of racing around on the day.

Maybe this is something that you could suggest to "guestzilla" if she isn't staying with her parents.

[mrsTM]

I think the best option is to send guests directions and taxi/hire car/public transport details. I think when people rsvp yes to a wedding invite, it is understood that they need to get to it themselves - at their cost.

The only time I think it's appropriate to ferry guests and put on transport is when the church is a long way from the reception area - as much as anything to make sure they all get there ok (and don't get "lost" via the pub on the way!!)

[PrincessPanda]

I'm agreeing with all that has been said.

One suggestion could be to ask a good friend (who is a guest) to organise a bus to transport some guests, then you can offer that to those who might need it on a first-come first served basis... I went to a wedding where this happened... I tell you, that bus was a party in itself!!

[JP's Girl]

I've had a similar issue. My mum has a "friend", Barry.

She's asked me twice now how Barry is going to get to the wedding. The first time she asked if he was coming in the bridal car with her and I!!!!!! Ah, how's NO sound!

The second time she asked me how he was getting there, and I said that basically if he can't get there under his own steam, then he'll have to decline. It's not a picnic or a get together, it's a wedding and i'm not stopping on the way to collect people in the bridal car!!! What is she thinking!!??!!

So then she asked me if we'd put on a bus so he can get the bus!! Mum isn't contributing to the cost of the wedding. She expects us to pay for this just so "Uncle Barry" can get to the wedding without having to drive his own car!!

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I've never been to a wedding and expected the couple to transport me! Most people will either get there and back under their own steam, or they'll book accomodation in the local area.

I would just ask your cousin to grab a lift with her parents or another relative, or close family friend. It's not your responsibility.

[In Visible]

I would agree with the others that its definelty not your responsibiltity to arrange travel for guests. Some times there are exceptions to this I know of people who have put on a mini bus from a central location that sort of thing.

All the weddings i have been to i have only been providied with travel info. The most recent wedding we went to we met some other guests to the wedding who were staying at the same hotel as us so we all agreed to get a taxi together to share the costs! worked out fine and they were a lovely couple!

I would just ask her to see how her parents are getting there and leave it at that. You have enough to do!