How do you describe your 'bigger' purchases to DH? Options

[katie05]

DH generally doesn't comment on most things I buy, and anything big, we discuss before purchasing.

If I have bought something expensive which I probabaly don't really need, I tell him I paid more than what I did for it.

So to give you an example:

DH: "How much were those shoes??"
Me: (Nervously) "$300" (exaggerated price)
DH: "WHAT??? You paid $300 for a pair of shoes"
Me: After a long silence... "No, just joking, they were only $120 (real price)"
DH: Oh, that's alright then!

He get's over his intial shock quite quickly and is just relieved that I didn't pay the exaggerated price!! It work's every time!!

[chelley]

Cost per wear! Cost per wear! Cost per wear!

It's my mantra!

Ditto - it is ALL about cost per wear ratio in this household oh and sometimes the environmental option which is to say "cheap clothes which are replaced rapidly because they don't wear well just contribute to landfill -do you really want me contributing to the landfill problem to which my environmentally friendly hubby will shut up

[katya]

I don't make big purchases on my own. It's usually my husband who says to me "if it makes you happy then get it". With encouragement like that all rational thoughts jump out of the window. Mind you we never buy anything that is not on sale but a $600 handbag is still a $600 handbag which, by the way, I had to say no to even when hubby said "I just want to make you happy." 1 and a half years later I still dream about that bag.

[pinksweetie]

Hey Pink Sweetie,

I was so obsessed with Guess last year. I got a heap of handbags and a few watches. One of them I even got for cheap (can't remember if it was free or maybe half price) from the Sunglass Shop when I got some new sunnies.

My current Guess watch is a really big round face with "diamonds" around the outside and a silver band. I get SOOO many comments about it. Best purchase.
My last one had a square face with black and had a big thick silver chain band. Very different.

I ended up getting the watch! Hubby went and brought it the other day and then came home made me close my eyes and put it on my wrist.
He is sooooo naughty but I like it, said i deseserved it now instead of christmas!
He argued them down from $275 to $190, pretty impressive. Well known jewellers starting with B.

[Ishi]

he buys more than I do!

I'll come home and suddenly he's got two new flat screen monitors hooked up to his computer.

The next day, oh I got these gadgets for the pool

Oh I bought this for your dad, and while I was there got one for myself....


I think all my purchases are pretty valid.
"I have to look good for work, people are promoted on their appearance and it's been mentioned to others they need to pick up their game if they want to get further"... that one worked a treat!

[jet]

I like to think I'm my own person, and that if I want something I don't need permission to have it....

Very much the same here and vica versa.

[chelley]

I work simply of the cost to ratio theory No my husband is good and knows I have expensive taste

[MissVintage]

I have rules.

First of all costs.

If it costs say 29.95 I can round it down into 10's so I tell him it cost $20.00. When you get into hundreds you can be even more vague either rounding it down to $50's and when its bigger than that I usually just use $1000's. For example, a holiday is $7,900 I will usually say around the 7 mark....

Saying this Ben pretty much knows what I am doing and rounds my $20 purchases up to $29.00.

Secondly, there is the tell all factor.

I usually stick stuff in my wardrobe and if he doesnt notice it too bad, he doesnt need to know. I am not sneeky, I dont take off tags and hide things its just I dont tell him about everything I buy....we would be here all day.

Thirdly, when I get something on sale usually I will make sure I have the receipt and go on and on about how good I am being, picking a sale item and if he doesnt tell me I am wonderful for getting something on sale I will sulk and tell him that I will buy it full price next time because he obviously doesnt care about my interest in our savings.

[*WAWife*]

I have rules.

First of all costs.

If it costs say 29.95 I can round it down into 10's so I tell him it cost $20.00. When you get into hundreds you can be even more vague either rounding it down to $50's and when its bigger than that I usually just use $1000's. For example, a holiday is $7,900 I will usually say around the 7 mark....

Saying this Ben pretty much knows what I am doing and rounds my $20 purchases up to $29.00.

Haha Miss Vintage I am exactly the same. DH just laughs when I say something cost $50 but it actually cost $59.99, he is pretty good now and just adds another 9.99 on to whatever I have brought. It just sounds so much better if you drop the extra bit at the end I reckon.

I'm normally pretty good and anything major is discussed, but if it is a shopping spree on clothes he just wouldn't understand so I just make sure i'm well behaved and if I buy anything that I really shouldn't have and he see's me wearing it and goes "oh that looks nice have you brought something new" i just end up saying nah i've had it in wardrobe for ages..just haven't worn it yet!!
Yes I know...so so so naughty!

[Puggie]

I hate shopping. I find it confronting and depressing. So hubby LOVES it when I go shopping with a girlfriend - it gets him out of going with me He literally stands there, before I leave, and empties his wallet and demands I spend it all before I come home.

Works for us

[la_jeune_mariée]

I hate shopping. I find it confronting and depressing. So hubby LOVES it when I go shopping with a girlfriend - it gets him out of going with me He literally stands there, before I leave, and empties his wallet and demands I spend it all before I come home.

Works for us

I know that I've asked this once or twice before, but would you like to swap? Mine's going cheap. Cheap being the operative word.

[Puggie]

I know that I've asked this once or twice before, but would you like to swap? Mine's going cheap. Cheap being the operative word.

If it comes with a swap of dress sizes, you're on

Seriously, though - if I tell hubby I am going underwear shopping with a girlfriend (of a similar size) he'll go to the ATM 3 days in a row beforehand to make sure I have enough to see to any need I might feel I have

But then - as I said - I hate shopping so it's hardly a common occurrence. Although I must admit he's equally as generous with handbags and shoes

[CamAli]

I don't tell him how much things cost !
I just say " it was a good buy " he gets it

[loni]

I'll come home and suddenly he's got two new flat screen monitors hooked up to his computer.

Are we married to the same man?

My hubby & I never feel like we have to justify big purchases to each other - he has his toys and I have mine! I guess it is easier that we both have separate bank accounts but generally we support each other's purchases because we both work hard and its nice to treat ourselves. I'll always show him what I have bought and tell him the price and vice versa.

[toffee]

Cost per wear! Cost per wear! Cost per wear!

It's my mantra!

Me too!

Unfortunately this has come back to bite me on the proverbial backside recently.
We have 2 weddings to attend in March, of which i'll be heavily pregnant at both....so i need a new dress. quite literally no other options in my wardrobe....& well the dress i like is $200 so i don't know if my cost per wear mantra would work this time since it'd be $100 per wear?

hubby LOVES it when I go shopping with a girlfriend - it gets him out of going with me He literally stands there, before I leave, and empties his wallet and demands I spend it all before I come home.

Works for us

Oh puggie - what a man!! (cue salt n peppa song here)
Only in my dreams would that happen in our house.